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If he’s only asking for sex, I’m sorry to tell you that it’s pretty safe to assume he isn’t interested in asking you out. He’s expressed his interest: it’s sex. And if you’ve interest in having a boyfriend, and his only interest is in having someone to have sex with, that’s a recipe for disaster…

Sometimes, when we perceive pain before it happens, we feel pain because (primarily) of that perception. It’s called a perceived pain event when that happens. Suffice it to say, that happens a LOT to a lot of women with first intercourse because of all the stories we hear about how terribly painful…

First things first: with ANY new partner – as in, someone we have not been with for six months or more, and practicing all aspects of safer sex with – we really, truly should be using latex barriers (condoms, in this case) with fellatio. I know, I do, that at 14, it often seems really unlikely…

I’d divide your questions into two groups here: the things you need to ask someone else, and the things you need to ask your girlfriend (and listen to her about). Let’s start with the first group. Per spermicides, in general, if you can avoid using them, you want to avoid using them. Not only are…

It’s not naive to be without information because no one gave it to you. As far as the ovulation cycle, I sure can! Start by having a look at this: On the Rag: A Guide to Menstruation. The way to know if you’re ovulating – or, more accurately, to be able to make your best guess – is to start…

We hear a lot – for sound reasons – about how intercourse by itself isn’t very satisfying for a majority of cis women. What we hear less about is that it’s also not always satisfying for men. But just because we hear less about it doesn’t mean it’s not an issue for plenty of men. No one sexual…

Before I say anything else, let me just say that I’m so sorry you had to have this experience. Sadly, very few women who have had even the smallest measure of sexual experience will go through life without at least one person responding like this, but it’s particularly painful when the person saying…

Joe, I’m going to be pretty straight with you, here. The “circumstances” aren’t determining your behaviour. You are both, every time you don’t use condoms properly and consistently, making an ACTIVE CHOICE to take the risks that are causing you this stress. You have every possible ability to make…

We get a lot of questions like this, so let’s try and clear up the matter once and for all. With a majority of people with vulvas, if you were nosing around in there when they hadn’t VERY recently given birth, you still wouldn’t likely be able to tell that they have had infants. As reproductive…

If the condom broke – which is the only way semen would be coming out of the bottom of the condom – then you were at a high risk of pregnancy. On the other hand, if your boyfriend seemed to think the condom looked intact, but just had fluids on the outside/bottom of it, he may have been mistaking…

Sure do: that’s called pre-ejaculate. Some people call it pre-cum. Pre-ejaculate – a clear, thin fluid – appears from the penis when a man becomes sexually aroused, and can come from the penis at the start or arousal or erection, during some sexual activities, as well as before a full ejaculation…

Everyone’s libido varies, as does everyone’s sexuality. In other words, the sexual appetite of a person isn’t determined by their biological sex or gender. Some women have lower libidos than some men; some men have lower libidos than some women. Too, these things also vary based on the specific two…

This answer is going to require a diagram. Click the link below and open in a new window or tab. Cross section of the female abdomen I know the picture has a lot of labels, but try to locate the vagina on the diagram. Notice how it runs parallel to the rectum. In the body, the vagina is just ventral…

Twenty-three inches, ehh? I wear jeans with a 29 inch inseam. I have a pair of capris (aka clam diggers, pedal pushers, etc.) that have a 20 inch inseam. Gosh, imagine how you’d wear pants with a penis that was 23 inches long! What I’m saying is, there are a lot of rumors and urban legends. A twenty…

If you feel you are at risk for an accidental pregnancy and are past the 120 hour mark for emergency contraception, you can wait until 10 days after the incident or after the first day your period is late to take a pregnancy test. It is much more likely to have a false negative pregnancy test than…

Anal douche is more commonly referred to as an enema. Enemas are solutions that are injected into the lower bowel to induce defecation through one means or another. There are many different kinds of enemas, those including things such as milk and molasses, fleet, cone, etc. Using an enema before…

Before I get started, full disclosure: I haven’t shaved or depilated anything in nine years and I just don’t come in contact with much advertising. (It’s amazing what you miss when you fast-forward through commercials and don’t buy mainstream magazines.) That being said, I am appalled by Nair’s new ad campaign.

A person’s height has no relationship to the size of their genitals – or, in your case, the length of the vaginal canal. The vaginal canal in any person isn’t even one static size, anyway: it changes. When we’re less aroused, the vaginal walls are tighter, and the back of the vagina and cervix are…

You can tell your partner that he’s incredibly misinformed. You might want to check out my answer to another question about vaginal tightness. But the short answer here is that your partner is woefully confused about sexual anatomy and arousal. The vagina does not permanently change due to inserting…

Learning to communicate with partners about any topic can be tricky. But working out those conversations about sex can be even more difficult. It’s really good that you want to discuss things and be open with your partner! Here’s the thing though, you can’t make someone talk about anything they…

The very first thing I’d say to you is that I hope you know and accept that it’s always anyone’s prerogative to change their mind or their stance when it comes to any aspect of sex and sexuality. Sounds like you do, but just in case you don’t, please know that it’s okay. It’s also okay to realize…

According to recent news articles, such as this one, researchers are currently working on a vaccine to prevent chlamydia. It appears this has been in the works for a while, but they have just recently had a major breakthrough, and we are now that much closer to making it a reality.

What an awesome friend you are! Obviously, everyone who is waiting for sex, or a certain type of sex, can have different reasons for waiting. Too, a person’s reasons for waiting might change over time, or if a person originally had wanted to wait, they may not want to all that much at a certain…

You’re not inhuman. Please know that. While, sure, some of sexuality is innate, far more of it is learned. So, anyone who is inexperienced and/or without information on sex and sexuality is going to feel uncomfortable, naive and unprepared. Plus, a lot of school-based sex education can be helpful…

Depending on when exactly you ovulate, that may not have been a safe time at all. Some people ovulate fairly early in their cycles, so for those people – let’s say someone who ovulates on day 10, and had unprotected sex on day 7 – that would have been a very high risk time. Please understand that…