When you and a partner (partner: In a sexual context, a person with whom someone is having some kind of sex. The term “partner” can be used for all kinds of relationships, not just serious ones. “Partner” can also mean the person someone is with in a romantic or familial partnership.) have no clothing on, and direct genital-to-genital contact, please understand that it isn’t dry sex (dry sex: A kind of sex where people have clothes on, but are pressing their genitals together. This can also be called frottage, grinding or dry humping.) anymore.
The “dry” in dry sex is pretty critical: it means that sex (sex: Different things people choose to do to actively express or enact sexuality and sexual feelings; often this involves genitals, but not always. ) was had in which there was no chance of any fluid contact or exchange. If you’ve got a naked penis (penis: One of the two external reproductive organs of people often assigned male at birth.) rubbing all over a naked vulva (vulva: The name for the external genitals of people assigned female at birth. The vulva includes the mons, external clitoris, inner and outer labia, fourchette and perineum.) , that’s not dry sex: that’s effectively sexual (sexual: About or relating in some way to sex or sexuality.) intercourse (intercourse: When people interlock their genitals and move together as feels good to them for the purpose of sexual stimulation and/or reproduction.) for all practical purposes.
That also means that kind of activity puts you at the same risks vaginal intercourse (vaginal intercourse: When a penis or sex toy is inserted into and held by the vagina while partners move their bodies as feels good to them for the purpose of either sexual stimulation and/or reproduction.) does, of pregnancy (pregnancy: The state of carrying a developing embryo or fetus within the uterus. Medically, someone is considered to be pregnant when an egg has been fertilized by sperm, cells divide, and the fertilized egg is implanted within the lining of the uterus.) and STIs. So, that spotting might be the start of your period (period: The fluid – or flow – which contains blood, from the shedding of the uterine lining usually at the end of each menstrual cycle. Sometimes periods may be less fluid and more globby; this is the state that is often mistaken for blood clotting.) , but it is also possible it is a symptom of an infection (infection: When harmful microbes, or germs, or harmful levels of microbes/germs, enter the body and multiply, causing illness. The common cold, flu viruses, sexually transmitted infections, chickenpox, impetigo, rabies and diphtheria are some kinds of infections.) you’ve contracted or (less likely, since it’s somewhat rare) that it is implantation (implantation: When fertilized ovum attach to the lining of the uterus during the process of human reproduction.) bleeding from a pregnancy. Chlamydia, for instance, one of the most common sexually transmitted infections (sexually transmitted infections: STIs: illness, infection and/or disease which is often or can be transmitted through sexual or other intimate contact, like HIV, Chlamydia or Herpes. Some people call STIs STDs.) among young people, can cause spotting. In your case here, it would NOT be implantation bleeding because pregnancy takes longer than four days to happen, and implantation isn’t going to happen until five to ten days in or so.
Spotting can also happen if you got an abrasion on your vulva, vaginal opening (vaginal opening: The external opening to the vagina.) or labia (labia: On the vulva, both inner (labia minora) and outer (labia majora) sets of skin with sensory nerve endings which surround the vaginal opening.) . You said things were a little rough, so that’s a possibility. For future reference, if things are rough and hurt or don’t feel good, that’s the way your body is telling you to chill out (out: Short for ‘out of the closet’. When someone’s LGBTQ+ identity is known to other people.) and be more gentle. If you’re sustaining injuries, then you know you’ve got to be more gentle, and/or be using a lubricant (lubricant: A fluid used in order to make kinds of sex (such as masturbation, vaginal intercourse, anal intercourse or manual sex) more pleasant and comfortable, and/or to help prevent condoms from breaking by decreasing friction.) as needed. Rubbing genitals (genitals: Body parts that are generally, culturally, scientifically or personally considered to be external sexual or reproductive organs.) together a lot produces friction, which creates dryness much of the time, so if you’re chafing, you probably need some lube.
But since you’ve engaged in this, I suggest that you get into your gynecologist (gynecologist: (Pronounced guy-na-coll-o-jist) A doctor that specializes in the health of the uterus, ovaries, vagina, and vulva. . They may also be referred to as “OB/GYNs” or, informally, “gynos”.) or sexual health-care provider for an STI (STI: Sexually transmitted infections: illness, infection and/or disease which is often or can be transmitted through sexual or other intimate contact, like HIV, Chlamydia or Herpes. Some people call STIs STDs.) screening and a general checkup. You’ll want to do those screenings – everyone sexually active (sexually active: Someone who has had or is currently having some kind of genital sex with a partner or partners.) needs to do this – at least once a year, and more often if you’re switching up partners more often or are not monogamous (monogamous: In the context of sex, people choosing to be with each other sexually exclusively; to only have one sexual partner at a time.) . Your boyfriend needs them yearly, too, not just you.
From here on out? If you do not want to become pregnant and want to reduce your STI risks, then when you’re naked, he’s naked, and your genitals are near one another, he needs to have a condom (condom: A thin sheath or tube of latex or another material, worn over the penis during sex to prevent or reduce the risk of pregnancy and/or sexually transmitted infections.) on. Alternately, he could just keep his pants on, but the point is that if you want to do dry sex and only have the risks dry sex presents (which are pretty much none), then it’s truly got to be dry, without any direct genital contact. I’d suggest you also make this clear to your boyfriend, and set a hard limit with it: no condom or no pants = no genital contact.
Too? Please know that if sometime in the future, you wind up doing this without protection again, that to prevent pregnancy after the fact, you can obtain and use emergency contraception up to 120 hours after a risk. That won’t protect you from STIs after the fact, but it can reduce your pregnancy risks very substantially.
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