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Take a big breath. It’s all going to be okay, and there’s just no reason for you to be so scared. For starters, it’s totally normal for ejaculate to run out like that after intercourse where the partner with the penis ejaculates without a condom. That’s plain old gravity: when you’re laying down or…

It really depends, because there are a few possibilities, and it could be any one or all of them. Most commonly, that’d just be a person with a vagina’s usual vaginal discharges. At nearly any given time, we have vaginal discharges and cervical mucus which are part of our monthly fertility cycle…

(Anonymous’ question continued) I will try my hardest (as in I will work as long as I can) to help her reach orgasm, but she just can’t seem to. Not once have I managed to make her climax during vaginal or oral sex. The most recent time She came very close, but just as she was about to peak she went…

It’s not a bad thing when it isn’t a bad thing for you. NO consensual sexual activity is a bad thing, per the activity alone, when everyone involved WANTS to be doing it, and feels good physically and emotionally doing it. But you’re right: there are a lot of negative attitudes about anal sex and…

It sounds like you’ve got your body pretty confused here! Let’s talk a little bit about how the pill works, because that may clear things up a little bit. Birth control pills are essentially doses of synthetic hormones. What this does is sort of re-order the way your body is functioning with regard…

Generally speaking, when you start missing pills in the middle of a cycle (especially if you miss lots of pills) some weirdness with your withdrawl bleed is to be expected. By not having those extra hormones in your body, it’s impossible to guess what was going on with your natural hormone levels…

I can tell you with no reservations that masturbation did not and cannot: • Cause hair loss • Cause any sort of stammering or other speech impairments • Have any effect whatsoever on your fertility Really, it won’t. It can’t. If it could, more than 95% of the population would be bald, infertile and…

First of all, good for you and your partner for educating yourselves about safer sex and wanting to be as safe as possible! The first step in having safer sex is deciding on and using some form (or forms) of birth control. The second, really important step then is making sure that you are using your…

This is one of those questions where the only “right” answer is that it’s not wrong if it isn’t wrong for you. But I’ll give you more than that to work with. If it’s wrong, it’s a wrong thing that the vast majority of the population does at one time or another, most starting so young that we don’t…

If he’s only asking for sex, I’m sorry to tell you that it’s pretty safe to assume he isn’t interested in asking you out. He’s expressed his interest: it’s sex. And if you’ve interest in having a boyfriend, and his only interest is in having someone to have sex with, that’s a recipe for disaster…

Sometimes, when we perceive pain before it happens, we feel pain because (primarily) of that perception. It’s called a perceived pain event when that happens. Suffice it to say, that happens a LOT to a lot of women with first intercourse because of all the stories we hear about how terribly painful…

First things first: with ANY new partner – as in, someone we have not been with for six months or more, and practicing all aspects of safer sex with – we really, truly should be using latex barriers (condoms, in this case) with fellatio. I know, I do, that at 14, it often seems really unlikely…

I’d divide your questions into two groups here: the things you need to ask someone else, and the things you need to ask your girlfriend (and listen to her about). Let’s start with the first group. Per spermicides, in general, if you can avoid using them, you want to avoid using them. Not only are…

It’s not naive to be without information because no one gave it to you. As far as the ovulation cycle, I sure can! Start by having a look at this: On the Rag: A Guide to Menstruation. The way to know if you’re ovulating – or, more accurately, to be able to make your best guess – is to start…

We hear a lot – for sound reasons – about how intercourse by itself isn’t very satisfying for a majority of cis women. What we hear less about is that it’s also not always satisfying for men. But just because we hear less about it doesn’t mean it’s not an issue for plenty of men. No one sexual…

Before I say anything else, let me just say that I’m so sorry you had to have this experience. Sadly, very few women who have had even the smallest measure of sexual experience will go through life without at least one person responding like this, but it’s particularly painful when the person saying…

Joe, I’m going to be pretty straight with you, here. The “circumstances” aren’t determining your behaviour. You are both, every time you don’t use condoms properly and consistently, making an ACTIVE CHOICE to take the risks that are causing you this stress. You have every possible ability to make…

We get a lot of questions like this, so let’s try and clear up the matter once and for all. With a majority of people with vulvas, if you were nosing around in there when they hadn’t VERY recently given birth, you still wouldn’t likely be able to tell that they have had infants. As reproductive…

If the condom broke – which is the only way semen would be coming out of the bottom of the condom – then you were at a high risk of pregnancy. On the other hand, if your boyfriend seemed to think the condom looked intact, but just had fluids on the outside/bottom of it, he may have been mistaking…

Sure do: that’s called pre-ejaculate. Some people call it pre-cum. Pre-ejaculate – a clear, thin fluid – appears from the penis when a man becomes sexually aroused, and can come from the penis at the start or arousal or erection, during some sexual activities, as well as before a full ejaculation…

Everyone’s libido varies, as does everyone’s sexuality. In other words, the sexual appetite of a person isn’t determined by their biological sex or gender. Some women have lower libidos than some men; some men have lower libidos than some women. Too, these things also vary based on the specific two…

This answer is going to require a diagram. Click the link below and open in a new window or tab. Cross section of the female abdomen I know the picture has a lot of labels, but try to locate the vagina on the diagram. Notice how it runs parallel to the rectum. In the body, the vagina is just ventral…

Twenty-three inches, ehh? I wear jeans with a 29 inch inseam. I have a pair of capris (aka clam diggers, pedal pushers, etc.) that have a 20 inch inseam. Gosh, imagine how you’d wear pants with a penis that was 23 inches long! What I’m saying is, there are a lot of rumors and urban legends. A twenty…

If you feel you are at risk for an accidental pregnancy and are past the 120 hour mark for emergency contraception, you can wait until 10 days after the incident or after the first day your period is late to take a pregnancy test. It is much more likely to have a false negative pregnancy test than…

Anal douche is more commonly referred to as an enema. Enemas are solutions that are injected into the lower bowel to induce defecation through one means or another. There are many different kinds of enemas, those including things such as milk and molasses, fleet, cone, etc. Using an enema before…