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Well, first off, it’d be good to toss out the whole idea of the “cherry.” There are no fruit of any sort on or in one’s genitals (unless of course you decide to put some down there, in which case you’ll want to avoid anything with sharp edges, clean it first, wrap it in a condom, and not stick it…

In some ways, my answer to this one are going to be similar to an answer I gave earlier today, to a guy asking a very similar question here. Ultimately, this all really depends on the why of his reticence. Has he had any previous experience with another partner with cunnilingus? If so, I’d suggest…

You know, even if it DID or does have to do with feces and the scent of feces it’d not be anything to be ashamed of. Really, your friend is being a dope. If we know anything about human sexuality, we know that what’s most normal is difference and variance, and that it’s exceptionally difficult to be…

A guy thinking that would be similar to someone from one culture looking at someone of another, who looks different or unfamililar, and presuming that because someone looks different from what they look like, or what they know or expect, that that person isn’t normal. Just as when that’s the case…

Sounds like you’re in a difficult spot, but it also sounds like you’re in a really good headspace to work it out, so let’s see what we can do. Some of why your partner is okay with intercourse may indeed be because it’s enjoyable for her, though it sounds like so far it hasn’t been very enjoyable…

I’m sorry you had such a bad experience. However, please understand that that bad experience did not likely cause permanent changes to your vulva or vagina. While certainly, if you were tense or underlubricated, that could have caused a tear to the tissue of the vaginal corona, which may cause mild…

Recently, the cost of hormonal forms of birth control such as the pill and the patch, among others, have skyrocketed. At least if you’re buying them from a campus health clinic. Up until this year, pharmaceutical companies gave colleges deep discounts on contraception. Time Magazine explains why costs have gone up so much and The Chicago Sun-Times gives an example of the consequences.

Condoms are ONLY reliable birth control when they are used for ALL direct genital contact, from start to finish. If you have intercourse without a condom, and only put a condom on later on, then you can’t depend on condoms to protect you against pregnancy (or STIs), since it is possible for pre…

1. First and foremost, understand that terms like “clitoral orgasm” and “vaginal orgasm” aren’t actually sensible, and are also really outdated. Orgasm happens primarily in the nervous system, as well as the cardiovascular system. We feel its effects genitally, and it can be – and often is –…

Implantation bleeding is actually fairly rare. More to the point, spotting when you’re taking BCPs continuously is incredibly common. So, it’s far more likely that that is why you’re seeing the spotting. If it hasn’t happened until now, that doesn’t mean that’s not why it is happening now. In fact…

One would hope that if you really liked someone for who they were that whatever their previous sexual experience was or was not would be irrelevant. Mostly, because it really is, save that any life experiences we have are a part of who we are. So, if you like someone, part of what you like about…

It’d actually be pretty atypical for a regular period to fall on the same numeric dates for a long time. Let me explain why that is. The number of days in each calendar month is not the same: it varies from month to month. Menstrual cycles, on the other hand, when they’re regular, are a given number…

One of the most common side effects of injectable birth control is that withdrawal bleeds (remember, you don’t have real “periods” on birth control) may lighten or disappear entirely. A second extremely common side effect is spotting (sometimes called breakthrough bleeding) throughout a woman’s…

You know, if you’ve little to no interest or feelings of strong desire for the physical and sexual aspects of sex, you aren’t as likely to reap big positive emotional benefits, either. For certain, partnered sex can and often does provide emotional intimacy for people, but when the only part one…

So long as you know – not just by guessing, but via regular, complete reproductive health exams – that you’re in sound reproductive health, and so long as that abdominal pain is really only showing up after intercourse, the most likely culprit for that symptom would simply be that you’re not…

Thankfully, there is no direct connection between one’s genitals and their mouth. So no, kissing (of any sort) will not lead to pregnancy. The right bits of anatomy are just not in the right location for that to occur. Similarly, there’s nothing about manual sex (‘fingering’) that could cause…

It’s tough for me to give you a solid answer on this one, because you weren’t very clear on what you were actually doing. Sometimes, when a person says they haven’t had “full” intercourse, or “full” penetration, they mean they haven’t had whatever their idea of that is. In other words, a person who…

(Charleten’s question continued) Last summer, I came out as a lesbian to my family and friends, because after about a year and half of questioning and soul-searching and doubting and ALL that fun stuff, I concluded that I was romantically and emotionally (and sexually, though again I just am not…

We have talked about those kind of things before I decided I was a lesbian. She always told me how weird and unnatural it is. But while it might be for her, for me, it’s not.

If it’s suspected that you have ovarian cysts, your gynecologist will most likely want to give you a full pelvic exam, and it’d be wisest for them to do that. In the best interest of your reproductive health, you’ll always want your healthcare provider to be as thorough as they can: you’re at…

It often takes a while for any new partner – especially when both partners are also new to sex in general – to get the hang of what works for a given partner with any given sexual activity. So, one thing to know is that it’s normal for things to just take time. But time alone won’t tend to that…

Have you seen your health care provider about this problem yet? If not, then that’s the very first place to go. You need to get checked out and make sure that everything physically is alright with you right now. You should also make sure that you tell your health care provider specifically that you…

You know, I really wish I could get a hold of whomever started this obsession with vaginal “tightness” and have a few choice words with them. Most of the words I’d have to say would not be very nice. But since that person is not here right now, all I can do is try to clear up a few of the…

Was this actually diagnosed by a health care provider as being a yeast infection? If it was, then your provider should have told you how long you should wait before becoming sexually active again. If it was not, then you need to get yourself to your health care provider or clinic to get this checked…

While your risks for STI transmission may be lesser if both of you have not ever been sexually active in any way, it does not totally negate the risk. Not being “sexually involved” can mean lots of things for different people. Some people might only consider “sexually involved” to mean having…