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The way to check if you’re still a virgin is to ask yourself how you define virginity, and see if or how your definition matches up with your experiences. In other words, there is NO – and I mean none, zero, nunca, aucun, keine – physical way to determine if someone is a virgin, because virginity…

There’s nothing like starting to put together all of the myriad complexities, preferences and desires of our sexuality to point out how silly it really is to suggest that human sexuality, sexual orientation or gender can be easily divided into such tiny boxes, is there? The short of it is that I…

Well, the first place I’d start is by having a good look at these four pieces here and sharing them with your spouse: Yield for Pleasure Sexual Response & Orgasm: A Users Guide First Intercourse 101 From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse Why did I link you to that first piece? In part…

You know, you’re not obliged to use language that you – or she – aren’t comfortable using, and which doesn’t make you or both of you feel good. What phone sex is – just like what other kinds of sex are – can differ a whole lot from couple to couple. And how any two people talk sex with each…

It’s fairly unusual for two people to be on the exact same page in the exact same way at the exact same time. It happens, for sure, but especially as relationships are just forming, it’s realistic to expect that at any given time, any one person may feel a bit more intense or a bit less about it…

Rachel at Women’s Health News shared the release of a committee opinion from The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists on vaginal “rejuvenation” and other genital cosmetic/plastic surgeries.

Well, it can be a big deal, and it is for most people. One thing that is important to understand is that NONE of us – not you at 13, not me at 37 – are ever ready and interested in having any kind of sex in the way you’re describing when who the other person involved isn’t known to us. I mean…

For what it’s worth, I’m not Heather, but I am a health department professional. And I’m sorry you’re stressed out with this BV and testing and so forth. I hope you can take some time out and chill, get the moral support you need for all of that stuff. Got a truly trusted friend who can talk to you…

In short, yes, that lubrication can result in pregnancy. Penises release special fluid during sexual arousal in order to lubricate and neutralize the inside of the urethra (the duct in the penis where urine and sexual fluids are released). This helps assist the sperm as they make their exit during…

Well, first off, it’d be good to toss out the whole idea of the “cherry.” There are no fruit of any sort on or in one’s genitals (unless of course you decide to put some down there, in which case you’ll want to avoid anything with sharp edges, clean it first, wrap it in a condom, and not stick it…

In some ways, my answer to this one are going to be similar to an answer I gave earlier today, to a guy asking a very similar question here. Ultimately, this all really depends on the why of his reticence. Has he had any previous experience with another partner with cunnilingus? If so, I’d suggest…

You know, even if it DID or does have to do with feces and the scent of feces it’d not be anything to be ashamed of. Really, your friend is being a dope. If we know anything about human sexuality, we know that what’s most normal is difference and variance, and that it’s exceptionally difficult to be…

A guy thinking that would be similar to someone from one culture looking at someone of another, who looks different or unfamililar, and presuming that because someone looks different from what they look like, or what they know or expect, that that person isn’t normal. Just as when that’s the case…

Sounds like you’re in a difficult spot, but it also sounds like you’re in a really good headspace to work it out, so let’s see what we can do. Some of why your partner is okay with intercourse may indeed be because it’s enjoyable for her, though it sounds like so far it hasn’t been very enjoyable…

I’m sorry you had such a bad experience. However, please understand that that bad experience did not likely cause permanent changes to your vulva or vagina. While certainly, if you were tense or underlubricated, that could have caused a tear to the tissue of the vaginal corona, which may cause mild…

Recently, the cost of hormonal forms of birth control such as the pill and the patch, among others, have skyrocketed. At least if you’re buying them from a campus health clinic. Up until this year, pharmaceutical companies gave colleges deep discounts on contraception. Time Magazine explains why costs have gone up so much and The Chicago Sun-Times gives an example of the consequences.

Condoms are ONLY reliable birth control when they are used for ALL direct genital contact, from start to finish. If you have intercourse without a condom, and only put a condom on later on, then you can’t depend on condoms to protect you against pregnancy (or STIs), since it is possible for pre…

1. First and foremost, understand that terms like “clitoral orgasm” and “vaginal orgasm” aren’t actually sensible, and are also really outdated. Orgasm happens primarily in the nervous system, as well as the cardiovascular system. We feel its effects genitally, and it can be – and often is –…

Implantation bleeding is actually fairly rare. More to the point, spotting when you’re taking BCPs continuously is incredibly common. So, it’s far more likely that that is why you’re seeing the spotting. If it hasn’t happened until now, that doesn’t mean that’s not why it is happening now. In fact…

One would hope that if you really liked someone for who they were that whatever their previous sexual experience was or was not would be irrelevant. Mostly, because it really is, save that any life experiences we have are a part of who we are. So, if you like someone, part of what you like about…

It’d actually be pretty atypical for a regular period to fall on the same numeric dates for a long time. Let me explain why that is. The number of days in each calendar month is not the same: it varies from month to month. Menstrual cycles, on the other hand, when they’re regular, are a given number…

One of the most common side effects of injectable birth control is that withdrawal bleeds (remember, you don’t have real “periods” on birth control) may lighten or disappear entirely. A second extremely common side effect is spotting (sometimes called breakthrough bleeding) throughout a woman’s…

You know, if you’ve little to no interest or feelings of strong desire for the physical and sexual aspects of sex, you aren’t as likely to reap big positive emotional benefits, either. For certain, partnered sex can and often does provide emotional intimacy for people, but when the only part one…

So long as you know – not just by guessing, but via regular, complete reproductive health exams – that you’re in sound reproductive health, and so long as that abdominal pain is really only showing up after intercourse, the most likely culprit for that symptom would simply be that you’re not…

Thankfully, there is no direct connection between one’s genitals and their mouth. So no, kissing (of any sort) will not lead to pregnancy. The right bits of anatomy are just not in the right location for that to occur. Similarly, there’s nothing about manual sex (‘fingering’) that could cause…