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It’s a very tough thing to lose touch with your own body. A little over a year ago, I started to feel under the weather. My joints swelled and ached, my stomach and guts were constantly cramping and gurgling, and my body was generally a wreck. My doctor brushed off these symptoms, chalking them up to things such as stress, allergies, and even gout. I began to lose weight, and suffer malnutrition as a side effect of my other gastronomical symptoms.

No one should have to do anything sexually that doesn’t feel natural and right for them in order to keep a partner. And if your partnership really hinges on being ” a freak” in bed, or behaving in a way your boyfriend wants, but just isn’t really you or about you, you really, truly are better off…

Hey, Monica! You know, weird feelings after sexual activities of all sorts are something that is reported pretty frequently by folks. There could be a couple of reasons for this. First of all, when we’re sexually active, we tend to become more aware of our bodies than we were before. Normal gas or…

It is certainly possible that sometime during sex you are getting some little abrasions that are causing you to spot afterward. Since you are not bleeding heavily, the abrasions are probably not serious, but just enough to cause some irritation. If you are not having this issue during other…

Condoms are always a good choice for sex (no matter how many times you have or haven’t done it) because they are the only contraceptive choice that also provides STI protection. Even if one has not been sexually active in the past or refers to themselves as a “virgin” (which can have a TON of…

There is no one, very-best-in-the-entire-universe condom that is going to be best for everybody the first time or the 10th time or the 100th time. So, I’m afraid we can’t give you one solid answer for that. However, I think I can offer a few suggestions that might make choosing one a bit easier…

No, panty crust is a normal result of vaginal discharge. Normally, it’s just cervical mucus. If she has an infection, it may contain other things (like pus). Cervical mucus – like all mucus – dries out to a solid; there’s not much of it left compared to its original volume since mucus is mostly…

This is called condom failure. You treat the situation as if you did not use a condom. You cannot rely on the condom to protect you against pregnancy or infections. First, you retrieve and properly dispose of the slipped condom. Sometimes, if the condom slips off, it gets stuck in the vagina or…

You know, if you went out on the street and asked 100 people what the “bases” were, I bet you’d get a TON of different answers. One of the issues with the old “baseball” analogy to describe sexual activities is that it is a culturally defined and influenced set of ideas. So different people define…

Pre-ejaculate can contain sperm, and it’s something that (especially during penetrative activities) usually goes unnoticed by both partners. The vagina is a wet environment, so you are not going to be able to feel the addition of some extra fluid. And (no matter what a partner may claim) men…

Mike Huckabee has recently been taken to task for his positions on the transmission and treatment of AIDS.

Yeast infections actually get their start in the intestinal tract, not in or on your genitals. Small amounts of yeast are normal and healthy in the body, but when certain factors cause that yeast – specifically candida albicans – to overgrow, that’s when you wind up with a yeast infection, which…

(Your question, continued) We continued to talk as “friends”, and I discussed the situation with his mom since he had told his parents what was going on. She explained that we needed to stop spending so much time alone and putting ourselves in such tempting situations, so my boyfriend and I talked…

You know, hormonal birth control often reduces or inhibits sexual desire or arousal for the person using it, too. For some people, pretty substantially. It does so because of what it does to a body hormonally: the only way condoms inhibit arousal or libido is if a guy using them (or opting not to)…

For birth control pills to be effective in preventing pregnancy, they have to be used correctly and consistently. Taking a birth control pill after sex won’t do anything to prevent pregnancy. And yep: it can sure make you feel a little loopy and confuse the heck out of your cycle. In order for your…

Hey there, Hartley. We DO know – experientially and statistically speaking – that young adults do tend to be less selective when it comes to their attractions and/or partners than older adults. Why is that? That’s where we don’t have such solid answers. By all means, you guys do have a lot more…

It’s really normal, as a relationship goes on over time, for sex to take a bit more of a backseat. It’s also common for things to be very high-key sexually when people first start dating. Novelty – something or someone being new – tends to put a high into many people’s sex drives, and when that…

You know, there are good reasons why we distinguish fantasy from reality. If your boyfriend not only expects that both of you CAN do everything he sees in pornography, but also that you will both – and not just because one of you does – even WANT to, then he needs a reality check. You don’t need…

Honestly, people need some from of preventative reproductive health care. Can you live without it? Some people can, but that is a gamble, and if you look at people in nations without any, you can get an idea for how that really just isn’t often healthy. Too, once you become sexually active it is…

While it’s common for women – especially young women – to feel pain or discomfort with sex, it’s not “normal” in that it has to happen or there isn’t an alternative. Sex is not supposed to hurt: it’s supposed to feel very good. If you’re bleeding after sex every time, and it’s also not feeling…

Increases in pregnancy and birth rates to any group, including teens, are about more than just what sort of sex education people are getting. By all means, a lack of accessible, approachable and accurate comprehensive sex education is always going to create problems with unwanted pregnancy. It always has. So, sound, accurate sexuality education is a vital starting point, but what else should we be addressing?

ANY direct genital contact that is unprotected ALWAYS puts you at a potential risk of pregnancy (when your partner has the genitals that could co-create one) and sexually transmitted infections. The vulva is a wet place, and sexual fluids like ejaculate and pre-ejaculate are also just that, fluid…

Nothing in the world is wrong with you. We explain this a lot here, but I’ll say it again: the majority of women do NOT reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone. You’re not the only one asking, either. Sadly, more women than not have just never been informed as to how their sexual anatomy…

Before we get into anything else, I want to debunk a few things you’ve said here that don’t have any real basis. He wants more sex than me. Big surprise. He’s a man. Men don’t automatically want more sex than women. Not all men and all women, not even most men and most women. Mind, we can say that…

You’re not alone in this, and it’s okay. Remember that orgasm is primarily an event that occurs in, and is about, the nervous system. Yes, most people have most of their orgasms due to stimulation that is about or includes genital stimulus. But not all people, and again, for most, it’s not JUST…