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If he refuses to change his mind, then this isn’t someone to marry, or even stay with anymore. Legally and emotionally tying yourself to someone who doesn’t give you a voice both in the kind of sex you have and when you become pregnant is legally and emotionally tying yourself to a kind of sexual…

Here are the possibilities, in order of most likely to least: He WAS with someone else over this last year. I know that’s certainly the least easy possibility to look at, but if he really tested all clear before the last round of tests within the amount of time you two have been together, and you…

This kind of thing is not an issue with your genitals changing in any way. It has more to do with your mind. One big thing that has long been the conundrum of married and long-term couples everywhere when it comes to sex is the fact that our libidos really do tend to thrive on changing things up…

An erection happens when certain structures on your body stiffen due to either increased blood flow, or muscular flexing. But usually, people tend to talk about the penis when they are talking about erection. When a person with a penis is stimulated tactilely (by touch) or mentally (such as with…

It’s really tough to say. Ultimately, the only person who can know for sure if they’ve reached orgasm is the person who is having one. For sure, often people’s expectations of orgasm can be off-base, especially if they’re primarily based on fictional depictions of orgasm. While sometimes orgasm can…

For all the peeps who aren’t familiar with the term ED, we’re talking about Erectile Dysfunction or impotence. And, yes, it’s normal and happens to a lot of people with penises. I strongly suggest you see a urologist regarding your ED, especially for a person your age. You limited erection can be…

Let’s do what we can to work this out, okay? I know it’s tough – especially if you’re also dealing with trauma in your family – and it’s scary, but it really is workable. I don’t know what you mean when you say you’re always careful, but there are currently – sparing men or women who get…

Nanelline: it is often tricky in some areas still to access or find emergency contraception in some areas, and unfortunately, yours is certainly one of the tricky ones. Here is what the Princeton EC site (which has a wonderful tool on that page for finding what EC options are available in every…

The most common reasons for what you are experiencing would be: • Beginning vaginal entry before you are really, truly, fully aroused. As in, aroused to the point where you are very nearly begging your partner to begin intercourse because you just can’t wait another minute for it. THAT is the point…

Phew! This is a lot of information – and that’s helpful – but there is also a lot to address in here. I’m seeing an awful lot of unrealistic expectations, from you and from your girlfriend, so I’d like to speak to those. Unrealistic expectations about sex really can make the sex we’re having be a…

If you’re uneasy about it, then I think it’s pretty obvious that it’s probably not the time to do it yet. We can like someone a lot and be intimate in ways with them that don’t require sex or any given type of sex, and which also don’t put us at risk of things we’re not prepared to be at risk for…

Yes, coldsores are the oral herpes virus, or HSV-I. Your friend has it right. Understand that most people do not contract oral herpes sexually, but through casual contact, and the majority of people with oral herpes contract it in childhood, just by doing things like sharing glasses with family…

If we’re going to think of our genitals as big, any one of us, given the small range between them, we should think everyone’s genitals are big. We also need to accept that it’s ignorant or misinformed to think, presume or suggest that penises are big but vaginas are small, because we really are all about the same size. If thinking big is better for one sex, it’s also got to be better for the other. So, if you or someone else is going to go on about some big penis, you’d best get just as excited about the idea of a big vagina, and make having a big ol’Vagowski just as cool. And if you’re all hung up on the idea that the vagina be as small as it can possibly be, or is such a small thing, then you’ve got to accept that penises are small, too.

Rape is when someone forces, coerces or nags you to do ANY kind of sexual activity you don’t want to engage in, or when someone has sex ON you or TO you, rather than 100% WITH you. A partner forcing his hands into your pants and fingering you when you do not want that is a rape. Whether or not it…

Say you don’t really dig giving oral sex. That really is all there is to it. Very few people like to do EVERYTHING there is to do sexually. I bet your boyfriend doesn’t like to do everything any given partner of his might or will want to do, either. Maybe it’s that he doesn’t really like someone…

I was wondering why we were getting this question a lot lately. Then last week, I saw the movie ‘Knocked Up.’ Lo and behold, one of the characters in the movie claims (and exclaims) that a girl can’t get pregnant if she’s on top. ‘Cause of gravity and all that. WRONG! So totally not true!!! Yes…

For the same reasons that your hair color is what it is. For the same reason you are as tall as you are. And for the same reasons other women have large nipples: It’s a blend of genetics and environmental influences. Depending on your genetic make-up and your upbringing (nutrition, chemical…

No, the penis does not have to go far into the vaginal canal to result in pregnancy. There have been cases where pregnancies resulted without any insertion of a penis into a vaginal canal. All that needs to happen is sperm must get to the ovum (egg). Simply spilling fertile semen on the vulva can be…

Congratulations, you’re totally normal! It’s strange the way that we often have expectations about the way things “should feel” or “should work” that are totally in opposition to the way that our bodies are made. The vagina itself is not particularly rich in nerve endings. Even more specifically…

There sure is! Per your cramps, it partially depends on why you’re having them. So, the first thing you will want to do, especially if they are severe, and if you have other menstrual issues, is to check in with your gynecologist or other reproductive health professional and make sure you don’t have…

Here is some basic information on what a sports physical usually requires. While breast exams are not an abnormal part of many general physicals, unless your school specified that you were to get a pelvic exam, it is not likely that a pelvic or GYN exam – or a visual examination of your genitals –…

I wouldn’t say you’re probably doing anything “wrong” here per say. Unless something is causing pain or injury or simply isn’t wanted, it’s not really fair to characterize it as “wrong.” Have you asked your partner what he likes? If not, then I’d start there. Sure, you could go get a book or a…

The National Institutes of Health has recently launched a Vulvodynia awareness campaign aimed at advocacy groups, health care providers and research organizations. It’s better late than never – as is, women must see an average of 4-5 health-care providers before they receive an actual diagnosis due the ignorance of the condition in the medical field. A good majority of gynecologists, who specialize in women’s health, often misdiagnose or shrug off the condition, as do the dermatologists, psychologists, and sex therapists patients are referred to out of desperation.

Stacey Skotzko, Chicago Tribune Redeye: May 24th, 2007

In a world where we all got filled in on the specifics of our genitals really well, it’d be an obvious question. But since most people don’t, a lot of people have questions like this, all the time. It’s no sweat, and there’s no reason to feel foolish for asking. Let’s first make sure we’re on the…