(Part of Be a Blabbermouth! The Whys, Whats and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner) The Not-Just-Yet-Hookup: You’ve hung out with someone once or twice with friends, and wound up spending time alone both times. Now you’re hanging out alone in a private space for the first time, some enjoyable…
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- Emira Mears
- Lauren Bacon
A book that provides readers with real advice and career options that will allow them to live their values and achieve their own version of work-life balance.
- Ophira Edut
- Tali Edut
A guide to using astrology to navigate romantic relationships.
- Heather Corinna
You don’t have an unusually small penis: you have an average sized penis. On average, the penis is between five and six inches in length, and four inches and five and a half in girth. See? Average. As well, weight loss doesn’t impact penis size. The penis can look larger with eight loss simply due…
- Heather Corinna
Yo, buddy: it’s not up to you if your girlfriend sustains her pregnancy or not. It’s up to her and her only. You also don’t get to decide for her how she terminates her pregnancy, if that is, in fact, what she wants to do. As well, no doctor can give a man the medications needed for a medical…
- Lena
Based on various internet reviews and commentary, I had expected the film Juno to be a touchingly light, introspective teen comedy in the same vein as Napoleon Dynamite or Ghost World; however, I had not expected it to be so sad and feel so personal. Sure, it starts with a lot of laughs, but a tinge of desolation soon sets in and it really gets to you by the end of the film.
- Heather Corinna
For a majority of people who menstruate, the time period you’re talking about, a week after your menstrual period ends, is a window of the highest fertility: in other words, the time when most people who menstruate would be at their highest pregnancy risk. Thing is, with any question like this, we…
- Heather Corinna
Birthright is one of many antichoice/pro-life organizations (like CareNet, Heartbeat International or the NIFLA) which supports a certain kind of pregnancy “help,” and we would not recommend anyone go to one of the centers affiliated with them, which they help fund, or others like them; even women…
- Heather Corinna
I’m sorry that you’re having to go through this. Looking at the timing here, and what you’re describing, it does sound like you had your menstrual period, in which case no, you cannot be pregnant. Not knowing the length of your cycles, or the date of that last period, I can’t tell you when to expect…
- Heather Corinna
Well, I’ll bet you’re annoyed! But it’s not just a guy thing. Often after anyone – male, female or otherwise – reaches orgasm, they’ll be a little spaced out for a bit, and might need a breather sometimes. Sometimes, even with our bit of dizzy-spacey-blissed-out, we’ll still be up to continuing…
- Heather Corinna
I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this, confused. You know, most of what many people think about virginity just isn’t accurate. And really, in so many ways, most ideas about virginity, and dynamics of virginity are sexist, have done a lot of women real harm through history and are…well…
- Heather Corinna
There isn’t a “cherry” (or an apricot, prune, or any other type of produce) inside a vagina. When people talk about “popping cherries,” it generally tends to mean a) someone is doing something for the first time, or b) someone’s hymen has popped. Thing is, the hymen, when it is present or partially…
- Heather Corinna
Your boyfriend seems to be dismissing the fact that for the majority of women, intercourse all by itself, no matter how long or short it lasts, is not very satisfying, especially physically. But even if it were, and even if a majority of women wanted intercourse to last a long time, that wouldn’t be…
- Heather Corinna
Before I say anything else, understand that you’ve got nothing to be scared about here, okay? You also don’t need to feel embarrassed about not knowing this stuff: not only do plenty of adult women not know either, it’s certainly not your fault that no one has given you thorough sex education or…
- Heather Corinna
Clarisse: the very first thing I want to say, and want you to try hard to hear, is that you are not abnormal, nor are you some kind of basket case. You’re simply someone healing from a serious injury. With at least one out of every four women being raped or sexually abused at some point in your…
- Lea
It’s a very tough thing to lose touch with your own body. A little over a year ago, I started to feel under the weather. My joints swelled and ached, my stomach and guts were constantly cramping and gurgling, and my body was generally a wreck. My doctor brushed off these symptoms, chalking them up to things such as stress, allergies, and even gout. I began to lose weight, and suffer malnutrition as a side effect of my other gastronomical symptoms.
- Heather Corinna
No one should have to do anything sexually that doesn’t feel natural and right for them in order to keep a partner. And if your partnership really hinges on being ” a freak” in bed, or behaving in a way your boyfriend wants, but just isn’t really you or about you, you really, truly are better off…
- Sarah Riley
Hey, Monica! You know, weird feelings after sexual activities of all sorts are something that is reported pretty frequently by folks. There could be a couple of reasons for this. First of all, when we’re sexually active, we tend to become more aware of our bodies than we were before. Normal gas or…
- Sarah Riley
It is certainly possible that sometime during sex you are getting some little abrasions that are causing you to spot afterward. Since you are not bleeding heavily, the abrasions are probably not serious, but just enough to cause some irritation. If you are not having this issue during other…
- Sarah Riley
Condoms are always a good choice for sex (no matter how many times you have or haven’t done it) because they are the only contraceptive choice that also provides STI protection. Even if one has not been sexually active in the past or refers to themselves as a “virgin” (which can have a TON of…
- Sarah Riley
There is no one, very-best-in-the-entire-universe condom that is going to be best for everybody the first time or the 10th time or the 100th time. So, I’m afraid we can’t give you one solid answer for that. However, I think I can offer a few suggestions that might make choosing one a bit easier…
- Susie Tang
No, panty crust is a normal result of vaginal discharge. Normally, it’s just cervical mucus. If she has an infection, it may contain other things (like pus). Cervical mucus – like all mucus – dries out to a solid; there’s not much of it left compared to its original volume since mucus is mostly…
- Susie Tang
This is called condom failure. You treat the situation as if you did not use a condom. You cannot rely on the condom to protect you against pregnancy or infections. First, you retrieve and properly dispose of the slipped condom. Sometimes, if the condom slips off, it gets stuck in the vagina or…
- Sarah Riley
You know, if you went out on the street and asked 100 people what the “bases” were, I bet you’d get a TON of different answers. One of the issues with the old “baseball” analogy to describe sexual activities is that it is a culturally defined and influenced set of ideas. So different people define…
- Sarah Riley
Pre-ejaculate can contain sperm, and it’s something that (especially during penetrative activities) usually goes unnoticed by both partners. The vagina is a wet environment, so you are not going to be able to feel the addition of some extra fluid. And (no matter what a partner may claim) men…