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First off, allow me to salute you for deciding exactly what it is going to take for you to feel comfortable about being sexually active and then taking steps to meet those conditions before continuing. Many people don’t do that and continue to have sex that they really aren’t comfortable having…

To paraphrase a certain bumper sticker, ” Discharge happens.” Seriously, it does. Every person with a vagina in the world has discharge. It’s just one of those things that you get when you’ve got a vagina. Discharge plays a very important role in both your vaginal health and in fertility. It serves…

The first thing you need to do is take a deep breath and try to relax here. Panic rarely helps anyone, it’s just not going to do you any good. So let’s break down the situation and look at what’s really going on here. First, I know you’re worried about the manual sex (“fingering”) you participated…

Stopping and starting the pill (especially if you stopped in the middle of a cycle) can really do a number on your body. Remember that when you’re on the pill (or any form of hormonal birth control for that matter) adds extra hormones into your system and essentially changes the way it is…

Anal sex, or ANY type of sex for that matter, isn’t going to be the “bee’s knees” for everybody. Even if one sexual activity feels good, that’s no guarantee that every type of sex is going to feel good either. It may just be that anal sex is not really your thing, and that’s okay. Not everybody…

If anything, sexual activity can sometimes improve menstrual symptoms, but only if you’re reaching orgasm. It’s the uterine contractions and chemical changes in your brain due to orgasm – not the activity itself, so much – that can do that. On the other hand, if you’re sexually active and not…

Not only do we all usher in a new year today, but 2008 marks the start of our 10th year at Scarleteen. Holy moley! I’ve got some plans a’brewing for some anniversary festivities throughout ‘08, but I’d like to usher in the year with you with a few ideas for some great resolutions to consider adding…

Bodies can do some pretty weird things sometimes. The unexpected can happen for reasons that not be apparent to us, even if everything has worked like clockwork in the past. There are lots of things that can cause a period to be late or to skip once in a while. Obviously, if you were pregnant you…

You’re right, while using contraceptives like the pill or condoms do provide really excellent protection from pregnancy (especially when taken/used absolutely correctly all the time), nothing is 100% except completely abstaining. Probably the best thing to do is to give a more detailed answer…

Open, honest communication with your partners is key to healthy, beneficial and satisfying sexual experiences. Need some help learning how to make it happen and keep it flowing?

(Part of Be a Blabbermouth! The Whys, Whats and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner) The Not-Just-Yet-Hookup: You’ve hung out with someone once or twice with friends, and wound up spending time alone both times. Now you’re hanging out alone in a private space for the first time, some enjoyable…

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You don’t have an unusually small penis: you have an average sized penis. On average, the penis is between five and six inches in length, and four inches and five and a half in girth. See? Average. As well, weight loss doesn’t impact penis size. The penis can look larger with eight loss simply due…

Yo, buddy: it’s not up to you if your girlfriend sustains her pregnancy or not. It’s up to her and her only. You also don’t get to decide for her how she terminates her pregnancy, if that is, in fact, what she wants to do. As well, no doctor can give a man the medications needed for a medical…

Based on various internet reviews and commentary, I had expected the film Juno to be a touchingly light, introspective teen comedy in the same vein as Napoleon Dynamite or Ghost World; however, I had not expected it to be so sad and feel so personal. Sure, it starts with a lot of laughs, but a tinge of desolation soon sets in and it really gets to you by the end of the film.

For a majority of people who menstruate, the time period you’re talking about, a week after your menstrual period ends, is a window of the highest fertility: in other words, the time when most people who menstruate would be at their highest pregnancy risk. Thing is, with any question like this, we…

Birthright is one of many antichoice/pro-life organizations (like CareNet, Heartbeat International or the NIFLA) which supports a certain kind of pregnancy “help,” and we would not recommend anyone go to one of the centers affiliated with them, which they help fund, or others like them; even women…

I’m sorry that you’re having to go through this. Looking at the timing here, and what you’re describing, it does sound like you had your menstrual period, in which case no, you cannot be pregnant. Not knowing the length of your cycles, or the date of that last period, I can’t tell you when to expect…

Well, I’ll bet you’re annoyed! But it’s not just a guy thing. Often after anyone – male, female or otherwise – reaches orgasm, they’ll be a little spaced out for a bit, and might need a breather sometimes. Sometimes, even with our bit of dizzy-spacey-blissed-out, we’ll still be up to continuing…

I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this, confused. You know, most of what many people think about virginity just isn’t accurate. And really, in so many ways, most ideas about virginity, and dynamics of virginity are sexist, have done a lot of women real harm through history and are…well…

There isn’t a “cherry” (or an apricot, prune, or any other type of produce) inside a vagina. When people talk about “popping cherries,” it generally tends to mean a) someone is doing something for the first time, or b) someone’s hymen has popped. Thing is, the hymen, when it is present or partially…

Your boyfriend seems to be dismissing the fact that for the majority of women, intercourse all by itself, no matter how long or short it lasts, is not very satisfying, especially physically. But even if it were, and even if a majority of women wanted intercourse to last a long time, that wouldn’t be…

Before I say anything else, understand that you’ve got nothing to be scared about here, okay? You also don’t need to feel embarrassed about not knowing this stuff: not only do plenty of adult women not know either, it’s certainly not your fault that no one has given you thorough sex education or…

Clarisse: the very first thing I want to say, and want you to try hard to hear, is that you are not abnormal, nor are you some kind of basket case. You’re simply someone healing from a serious injury. With at least one out of every four women being raped or sexually abused at some point in your…