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(Eoin’s questions continued…) 1) Abstinence-until-marriage is not superior (this will also come up later with respect to “the parents” and other concerns with my girlfriend); is it such a big deal if I have sex with my girlfriend tomorrow, in a couple months, or several years from now, including…

It won’t do you harm that once, nor will using emergency contraception more than once: there isn’t any data at this time which shows single or repeat use presents health risks beyond those we see with other hormonal BC. You can take a look at this page or this one for more information on EC…

Good on you for being proactive! A huge marker of sexual readiness is sussing this stuff out before anything happens, so you two are definitely on your way there. The absolute BEST way to avoid the unpleasant consequences of sexual activity is to use a condom, correctly, every time. Condoms are easy…

If weeks after this risk, you had a normal period, then there really is no reason to be concerned about pregnancy. But if you’re still worried, even knowing that, the best thing to do so that you can relax is just to go to the drugstore, get a home pregnancy test and take it so that you can see that…

Of all the antidepressants around, Zoloft is actually most often linked to sexual side effects, and inability to reach orgasm, ejaculate with orgasm, erectile dysfunction and impaired libido (sexual drive) are common effects of Zoloft (and other SSRIs). So, since that is a very likely possibility…

Hey there, Susie. You’re welcome! Birth control pills are equally effective every single day of your cycle so long as you are taking the pills as directed, and on time every day, and without any other medications which could interfere with them. Some antibiotics, for instance, may decrease…

I can certainly do my best. Let’s start with the basics. Thing is, “premature ejaculation” is actually not the best term in the world, because it is seriously vague and incredibly arbitrary. I can tell you that I run too slow, for instance, and what you’re likely going to ask me is “Compared to who…

There isn’t anything TO do save to wait for when she does also want to have sex with you. Really, have a think about this. Would you want it any other way? Who would want to have sex with someone who didn’t want to have sex with them just as much? And unless both people really want to, is it really…

CHOOSE WIFE. That was a sign being held up by a protester this week in front of the clinic where I work in addition to my job here. Two words, but they speak volumes. (Though I confess, it took me a little while to get pissed, because I couldn’t stop saying it in an Elmer Fudd voice for a few minutes.)

There is no way that any sexual partner of yours would be able to tell that you’ve had sex before unless you tell them. Here’s the thing though; even strictly sexual relationships require honesty. You need to be honest about your sexual history because when you’re involved in a sexual relationship…

I don’t think I need to explain that this is a step in the right direction. The Boston Globe and AlterNet have articles going into more detail.

The closer you take your birth control pill to the ‘normal time’ the better. That said, you do have some flexibility (you have a twelve-hour window before the pill is considered “late”). You don’t sound comfortable using the birth control pill as your sole method of birth control. Have you talked to…

Pre-ejaculatory fluid is secreted by twin structures called the Cowper’s glands. These glands are tiny, and they are located at the base of the penis. The fluid they make lubricates the urethra and facilitates semen flow during ejaculation. Pre-ejaculatory fluid starts to seep out during sexual…

If you’re considering condoms as a birth control method, or already use them and want more information.

LUBRICANT! Lubricant, lubricant, lubricant! (Sorry, I just had to stand up and shout that. There was also a song and dance number involved, which is why I had to repeat it a few times, but you obviously could not have seen my little lube dance from your side of the screen. Consider yourself very…

First off, allow me to salute you for deciding exactly what it is going to take for you to feel comfortable about being sexually active and then taking steps to meet those conditions before continuing. Many people don’t do that and continue to have sex that they really aren’t comfortable having…

To paraphrase a certain bumper sticker, ” Discharge happens.” Seriously, it does. Every person with a vagina in the world has discharge. It’s just one of those things that you get when you’ve got a vagina. Discharge plays a very important role in both your vaginal health and in fertility. It serves…

The first thing you need to do is take a deep breath and try to relax here. Panic rarely helps anyone, it’s just not going to do you any good. So let’s break down the situation and look at what’s really going on here. First, I know you’re worried about the manual sex (“fingering”) you participated…

Stopping and starting the pill (especially if you stopped in the middle of a cycle) can really do a number on your body. Remember that when you’re on the pill (or any form of hormonal birth control for that matter) adds extra hormones into your system and essentially changes the way it is…

Anal sex, or ANY type of sex for that matter, isn’t going to be the “bee’s knees” for everybody. Even if one sexual activity feels good, that’s no guarantee that every type of sex is going to feel good either. It may just be that anal sex is not really your thing, and that’s okay. Not everybody…

If anything, sexual activity can sometimes improve menstrual symptoms, but only if you’re reaching orgasm. It’s the uterine contractions and chemical changes in your brain due to orgasm – not the activity itself, so much – that can do that. On the other hand, if you’re sexually active and not…

Not only do we all usher in a new year today, but 2008 marks the start of our 10th year at Scarleteen. Holy moley! I’ve got some plans a’brewing for some anniversary festivities throughout ‘08, but I’d like to usher in the year with you with a few ideas for some great resolutions to consider adding…

Bodies can do some pretty weird things sometimes. The unexpected can happen for reasons that not be apparent to us, even if everything has worked like clockwork in the past. There are lots of things that can cause a period to be late or to skip once in a while. Obviously, if you were pregnant you…

You’re right, while using contraceptives like the pill or condoms do provide really excellent protection from pregnancy (especially when taken/used absolutely correctly all the time), nothing is 100% except completely abstaining. Probably the best thing to do is to give a more detailed answer…

Open, honest communication with your partners is key to healthy, beneficial and satisfying sexual experiences. Need some help learning how to make it happen and keep it flowing?