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Not only can you not stop your vagina and vulva from lubricating, that is what HAPPENS to people with vaginas when we become sexually aroused. It’s supposed to, ideally, because if we’re not lubricated, vulval and vaginal sex – as well as some kinds of clitoral stimulation – doesn’t feel very good…

When you don’t know the answer to something or can’t find it, it’s never, ever stupid to ask a question. What would be stupid is NOT to ask! Too, women – and plenty of people of other genders – are very often taught little to nothing about their sexual response systems and cycles, so not knowing…

Your boyfriend needs to understand and accept that it’s very unlikely he never pre-ejaculates if he does fully ejaculate, too. In other words, if, at his age, he’s reached the stage of puberty where he can ejaculate, then he also does pre-ejaculate. Pre-ejaculate is how the penis “prepares” itself…

(Part of How You Guys - That’s Right, You GUYS – Can Prevent Rape, and continued from Who are rapists, and where did rape even come from?) Sometimes, someone being raped will clearly say no and will NOT clearly say yes. They might say no verbally, with words, they might say no by crying, they might…

(Part of How You Guys - That’s Right, You GUYS – Can Prevent Rape, and continued from How can men know if someone is giving consent or not?) What more can we do to stop rape? There is a lot more all of us can do to help disengage our rape culture beyond not raping someone else. Since again, most…

(Part of How You Guys - That’s Right, You GUYS – Can Prevent Rape, and continued from What is Rape & What Is It Like to Be Raped?) The vast majority of people who rape are and have always been male. That does not mean that most men are rapists. While many women will be raped, the majority will not…

(Part of How You Guys - That’s Right, You GUYS – Can Prevent Rape, and continued from Why Do Men Need to Know About Rape?) Rape is when one person wants and pursues a sexual act on, to or inside another person who does not want to participate, and who does not fully and freely consent to take part…

(Continued from How You Guys – That’s Right, You GUYS – Can Prevent Rape) Rape is often framed as about women, but it’s not. Something done TO us really isn’t about us. It’s the things that we choose to do which are about us, which is why it’s such an error for rape to be framed as a women’s issue…

Rape is often framed as about women, but it’s not. Something done TO us really isn’t about us. It’s the things that we choose to do which are about us, which is why it’s such an error for rape to be framed as a women’s issue or about women: it’s almost always a men’s issue and really about men. Find out what men need to know about rape and rapists, what you can do to be sure you have consent with sex, other ways to help with rape prevention, and why your help is so important.

The instructions on every packet of condoms I have ever seen (including condoms in countries outside the United States) clearly state that once the man has ejaculated, he needs to withdraw and dispose of the condom promptly. Proper withdrawal means you grip the ring firmly, pull out completely and…

Susie explains what a rim job (analingus) actually is and what to be aware of when considering it.

This is an unusual question, and I’m not sure if you intended to ask this literally, but let’s see… There is no set number – minimum or maximum – of times you can have sex before you get pregnant. A person with the capacity to get pregnant can have sex and get pregnant the first time they do so…

You know, as a culture we’ve somehow developed an awfully funny idea of what is “sex” and what isn’t “sex” that seems pretty darn arbitrary. Think about it, manual sex, oral sex, anal sex…all those things have the word sex in them. So quite honestly, from a sexual health and public health…

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Let’s start with the biggest question: is it wrong to have sex with someone you’re not in a capital-R or romantic relationship? You know, all this wrong and right stuff is arbitrary and very personal. I’m sure there are some things for me in my sex and general life that are right as rain for me, but…

I tend to think the best way of saying I love you is…well, saying “I love you.” But if you’re asking if sex can express love? Sure it can. It doesn’t always, but it absolutely always has that potential. People being mutually invested in each other’s comfort and pleasure, each other’s sexual growth…

People with vaginas do not always bleed during or after sex. But when they do bleed during or after sex and it’s not because of menses, then it’s due to some injury in the vagina or vulva. As well, some sexually transmitted infections – Chlamydia is a biggie for this – can cause bleeding with or…

I’m glad you’ve found things on the website that have been useful for you! Being educated about your body and about safer sex practices goes a long way toward making sex both safer and more enjoyable when we are ready for it and do want to be engaged in it. Keep in mind here that there is no one…

Let’s toss out the idea of being “tight” because you haven’t done anything with anybody else. Sex of any sort (manual sex, intercourse, or whatever else) doesn’t permanently change the dimensions of one’s vagina. So thinking that people who haven’t engaged in vaginal or manual sex are tighter than…

You know, I always feel for heterosexual or bisexual folks when they clearly have paid attention to this stuff, done the reading or just talked to women, put it all together and have that “Whoah!” moment about this issue. With so many people reared to think that male-female vaginal intercourse is…

You know, it actually isn’t “cute” to not understand your own body. It’s pretty tragic, and for the person who doesn’t understand, it doesn’t tend to feel cute. It can even feel pretty scary, especially if and when you’re doing things – or someone else is – with that anatomy you can’t or don’t…

You will need to tell new partners about a sexually transmitted infection you have or have had, particularly one like human papillomavirus (HPV) where condoms reduce the risks of transmission, but not as well as they do for other kinds of infections. Putting someone knowingly at risk of an infection…

Really, all I needed to do was to get to your second paragraph, and then read your last few sentences to know that a) this guy isn’t good news and b) you really don’t want to be in this relationship, which I’d say is a very good thing. Can you imagine your almost-thirty-year-old self making a deal…

No, it is not. Sounds to me like your girlfriend has misunderstood how fertility cycles work. While cycles vary between people who menstruate – which is part of why the “calendar method” isn’t a good one – a vast majority of those people will be most fertile mid-cycle, between around day ten and…

If you say nothing, it’s unlikely he’ll know. The bodies of people with vaginas really don’t change when they have any kind of sex, unless they become pregnant or contract an infection. Vaginal sex can wear a hymen or partial hymen away more, but so can and do a lot of other things, and at your age…