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In a world where we all got filled in on the specifics of our genitals really well, it’d be an obvious question. But since most people don’t, a lot of people have questions like this, all the time. It’s no sweat, and there’s no reason to feel foolish for asking. Let’s first make sure we’re on the…

Hey there, freakout. I’m so glad you’ve found so much help here, and kudos to you for thinking about all of this in advance of sexual activity! Really, that’s an ideal we’re always all hoping for. If everyone had all of this information in advance, we’d all be a lot healthier, and probably have much…

There sure are a lot of choices in condom styles now, so it’s understandable that the array can leave folks mighty confused! Here are some of the most common “styles” of condoms out and about these days, and what the what is with each of them: Thinner condoms: Really, most condoms these days are far…

You know, genitals smell like genitals smell like genitals. A bit musty, sometimes a bit acidic or salty. And with women, because of the phases of our fertility cycles, and the changes in our cervical mucus and vaginal discharges during every cycle, that smell isn’t always going to be identical. You…

You know, sex really is supposed to be fun, so while it is absolutely wise to do all you can to prevent a pregnancy, there are ways to do that which don’t have to be so involved or be a big buzzkill. Condoms, when used properly, are highly effective: around 98% effective with perfect use. Perfect…

Yes. Please understand that becoming pregnant isn’t about how long someone lasts, if someone is having sex for the first time, if someone reaches orgasm or not. There is ALWAYS a risk of pregnancy if a man and a woman have vaginal intercourse, and a high risk if during that intercourse the male…

Understand that most sexually transmitted infections and diseases are asymptomatic. In other words, most often do not show symptoms, or symptoms any of us could easily notice. Some do, sometimes, and some do, but not until a person has had the infection for quite some time. Please also understand…

If you’re considering or planning an abortion, you need to know what your options are, what’s involved before, during and afterwards, and how to consider or make this reproductive choice as best you can. We unload abortion for you so that you can inform yourself to be sure it’s the right choice for you, and if you choose it, find out what you need to know to best take care of yourself throughout.

Really, the why here isn’t that important. What’s important is the “is.” In other words, you’re doing things you’re saying you really don’t want to do. WHY you’re doing them, or what might have caused you to have a hard time with making the choices you want to isn’t as important as the fact THAT…

Do you want to have a better sexual experience this time, as well as a relationship of real quality – in which someone loves, likes and cares for you just as you ARE, not based on a persona – with your new boyfriend? If you do, then it’s really important to be honest. When we’re dishonest with…

Humans are mostly made of water, and vaginal fluid is most certainly water-based. This means it can evaporate under normal earth conditions. This is normal. More normal than that is the fact that even when woman are sexually aroused, they may not make enough vaginal lubrication to make prolonged…

Hi Miguel, it looks like you’re fighting some serious peer pressure. Despite all of our progress towards gender equality and rights, we still have some pretty wacked double-standards in our society. There’s the double-standard that says that women who have lots of sex are whores, and men who abstain…

My first question in this case is, did your health care provider look into your menstrual difficulties or did they just slap you on the pill and assume that would solve the problem? If nobody really looked into your problem, then I’d suggest that you consider heading back to your provider (or a…

When you start taking the pill, you’re adding lots of extra hormones into your system and they are essentially forcing your body into a new sort of cycle. It’s not like the cycle you have when you aren’t on the pill, because you no longer ovulate. Typically, you begin taking the pill around the time…

Wearing tampons when you aren’t menstruating isn’t a good idea in terms of risks of TSS and uncomfortable vaginal dryness, but doing so won’t have any sort of permanent effects on the vagina. Same goes with having intercourse: the vagina is a muscle, and use of it doesn’t cause atrophy – that doesn…

It’s important to understand that rape is only sex for the person doing the raping. And really, it’s not even that, since partnered sex is something we do WITH someone, not TO someone, or have done TO us. A person being raped does not have control over the situation, isn’t consenting and IS…

In this post, all I’ve heard about is what your boyfriend likes and wants. You haven’t said a thing about what YOU like and YOU want, and that concerns me. So, I really hope that any sex you’re having is just as much about what you want, what you need, and what you enjoy. To have a healthy sexual…

If sperm went into a vagina and the person with the vagina is not on any form of birth control, then YES, they could get pregnant. Even if they’re on top, and some semen trickles out, chances are just enough sperm cells could make their way up into their reproductive tract to result in a pregnancy…

It sounds like he’s ramming into your cervix. A lot of people with vaginas really don’t like that ‘cause it can be painful. Look at this diagram from Innies & Outies and notice how the vagina ends at the tip of the cervix. The vagina is only about 4 or 5 inches deep, so if a penis is longer than…

I read about this site in a book that I’m currently reading. I thought I’d check it out for myself. I think the content of your site is terrible. You think that you give teens all the information that they need so they can make informed decisions about their sex life. What bologna. The only decision that teens need to make is to not have sex until they are married. Certainly we all need to be informed about our physical health, our bodies, and how to have a healthy sexual relationship. But what about talking to teens about abstinence?

Congress is considering repealing the military’s discriminatory “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy. At present the bill (The Military Readiness Enhancement Act (H.R. 1246)) is in committee with 136 cosponsors. In the past fourteen years Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell has done a great deal of harm, not only to…

Hi Marie, your boyfriend doesn’t have anything to worry about. You might not even believe this but the man who invented corn flakes, Dr. Harvey Kellogg, as well as the guy who invented Graham crackers, Dr. Sylvester Graham, and most experts of their day, believed that any man who ejaculated “as…

U.S. President Bush has just appointed a visible critic and opponent of contraception to head Title X, our family planning program whose purpose is to provide access to contraception and other family planning services. In a 2000 Weekly Standard article, Orr railed against requiring health insurance…

Here’s the thing: when a person with a vagina is sexually aroused, in general, yheir vagina self-lubricates (becomes more wet), their clitoris and parts of the vulva become more erect, and the vaginal opening and vaginal canal relax and expand (become looser). So, to ask to be wet AND “tight” is a…

It’s pretty difficult when we let our self-worth get tied up in whether or not we “satisfy” a partner (especially based on criteria like orgasm). Unfortunately, the only thing you can do is explain what happened to your partner and be as honest as you can (which it sounds like you have been). What…