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It’s important to remember that partnered sex isn’t just about your preferences and wants, it’s also about the preferences and wants of your partner. Partnered sex isn’t a solo: it’s a duet, and what you’re going for is harmony. You’re going to find those wants and preferences out by experimenting…

When a person, behaving in a healthy way, chooses not to tolerate a certain dynamic in a relationship they dislike or which makes them unhappy, what they choose to do is set a limit. If that limit is not respected by a partner, they then terminate the relationship and potentially contact with that…

The best person to ask that question of is…. (drumroll please) … your girlfriend! She’s the one who knows the answer to this question. When you’re doing something sexual with someone, and they’re not reacting in any way or don’t seem to be fully along for the ride, the first thing to do is to…

How familiar are you with the changes to your vulva or the rest of your body when you get sexually aroused? I ask this, because I’m willing to bet that there have been times, for you, when you’re with a partner you’re attracted to, and who you want to be with, but find that your clitoris is not as…

People tend to forget that young men often may not even be at the stage in their sexual development where erections happen often or easily or where they can yet ejaculate. Some guys are just starting puberty at 14 or 15. Your boyfriend simply may not be at this stage in his development yet. But…

Well, not all men do freeze up when asked (and not all men watch porn, either). For that matter, some women also watch pornographic movies, and they don’t all become mute when you ask them about it, either. As someone who has written on these issues a lot over the last ten years, and asks others…

Not having sexual contact with anyone in the past does decrease your risk of STI transmission, however it does not totally negate the risk. First of all, some STIs can be transmitted via non-sexual means. One example that works really well when we’re talking about oral sex is herpes. As is noted in…

(Emily’s question continued) Anyway, I keep thinking about being pregnant, wanting a baby and hoping and hoping I get pregnant. I hate thinking this way, because we aren’t really ready for that yet, but I can’t stop. Is there really any reason I would have this motherly urge? We always have…

Well, panic doesn’t really do anybody any good, so I’d advise not spending your time in a panic period. However, based on what you described you do have both a pregnancy risk and an STI risk. Withdrawal (or “pulling out”) is not really a good method of birth control. (Our own founder, Heather, is…

Absolutely! Hands are pretty darn dirty places. I mean, think about all the things we touch in a given day! Your hands can definitely carry bacteria and germs on them. Those nasties can then easily make their way into your body if a partner performs manual sex on you. Vaginal tissue is pretty…

Are you ticklish? Or do you know people who are ticklish? I’m really really ticklish on my knees. Touch my knees and I absolutely go crazy! My partner, however, is totally unmoved by knee contact. In fact, he’s only really ticklish on his feet and elbows. My sister’s tummy is her most ticklish spot…

Colleges over the years have made many changes that to younger generations are seen as ‘keeping with the times’ while older generations looking back are finding themselves in a situation of slight culture shock. One of the newest decisions being made about the dormitories in the past few years have been that more and more colleges are allowing – believe it or not – coed dorm rooms.

One of the things that has a great influence in both how I enact sexuality education and how I conceptualized my approach from the get-go is my background with teaching in the Montessori Method. Overall, the primary way Montessori works is this: as educators, we observe our students, and based on…

Vaginal dryness can have lots of different causes. Especially if you’re having dryness all the time (even when you’re not aroused or sexually active as well), you’ll want to first check out the other things going on in your life and see if there’s a cause there. Some medications and certain…

If you had a partner before him for oral, vaginal or anal sex, that could be who you got it from and your current partner managed not to contract it from you (now or yet), or contracted it so recently that he isn’t testing positive yet. Or, your current partner’s test wasn’t accurate, or he said he…

With any kind of manual sex, there’s always a chance of abrasion. You can reduce this risk by wearing a latex glove or finger cots (they’re like condoms for your fingers), then applying water-based lube. This combination covers your fingernails, and it provides extra slickness so you won’t chafe her…

Can you see your double-standard here? You don’t reach orgasm during sex, but say that you enjoy and want it all the same. Even knowing that – assuming it’s true, and not just something you’re saying because you think you’re supposed to – you’re presuming that because he isn’t reaching orgasm, he…

What’s a “boyfriend” or what’s a “girlfriend?” It all depends on what you and yours decide it’s going to mean and what works best for you.

There’s a lot to talk about here. Let’s start by addressing and dealing with your risks. It sounds to me like you’re both so unaware of your own anatomy, and were so unfamiliar with what any given kind of sex might feel like that there’s no way either of us can say if you only had anal intercourse…

Your issues of sexual satisfaction and your issues of considering opening up your relationship when it comes to dating others strike me as two different issues. We’re rarely going to meet a new partner who just lucks into knowing exactly what to do for sex to be satisfying for us. In fact, it’s much…

When your period is going to happen in a given month is determined through the whole of your fertility cycle, by a fairly complex process of hormones in your body that trigger when you ovulate, how much uterine lining you build up and when, and how, you shed that lining. The only ways that any kind…

For years student at different high schools around the country have participated in Prom Promise (founded and organized by Nationwide) where they sign a card stating, I promise not to use alcohol or other drugs. This is a promise I take seriously. It’s one I intend to keep, for my sake and the sake of my friends and family. Recently a school district has decided to take part in the sexual health protection of their prom-attending students as well.

That all depends on what having it be special really means to you. I know that might sound trite, but we’re all just so different, and what’s meaningful to us varies so much that not knowing anything at all about you before now, what might be special to you isn’t something I can speak to with any…

You know, whether or not a boyfriend wants something from you does not obligate you to give it to him (and vice-versa). I’d totally be down for ditching work for an hour and having sex with my partner right this second. But he’s upstairs in his office doing work for himself right now which he needs…

Ten minutes is actually a longer time, not a shorter one, for an erection to last once intercourse begins, especially for younger men. But even if he lasted a half hour, it’s unlikely that you’d feel satisfied with intercourse alone or reach orgasm that way, since the majority of women do not. Your…