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There are a few possibilities. • Maybe she is on the pill, but either doesn’t know how to use it properly, or hasn’t been using it properly, such as by missing pills, confusing active pills for placebos, or had an interaction with her pill and another medication, like an antibiotic. • Maybe you’re…

Who says you’re not as hot as someone who weighs less than you, gal? In other words, it’s entirely possible this guy is attracted to a hot girl: you. Not everyone shares the same aesthetics when it comes to who we’re attracted to, nor does everyone subscribe to a given set of beauty ideals or…

Did your doctor have a discussion with you about the fact that your boyfriend may already have HPV? If you have been with him for a long time, and only recently was your HPV detected (particularly if you’ve been good about your STI testing and pap smears before now), you may well have gotten it from…

While the experience was probably different and new to you, that doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s a weird experience. Female ejaculation (which is also called squirting, since not every person with a vulva is female) is actually a normal sexual response, though it’s not as common a response. So…

We’re hoping these answers get you better filled in so you can feel good about yourselves, your penises and whatever you do (or don’t) do with them.

The Equipment, part one This section of the video covers topics such as physical anatomy (and what the parts do), arousal, vaginal fluid, semen, and intersexuality. The Equipment, part two This section of the video covers topics such as gender identity, sexual orientation, the characteristics of…

I’m going to break your question down some so we can be sure to touch on everything here. First, let’s talk a bit about readiness. Readiness for any type of sex happens for people at different ages, different points in the relationship, and even in some relationships and not others. One person may…

No. No kind of sex can change the shape or size of your body (sparing something temporary and small, like erections or clitoral swelling because of being aroused). If you become pregnant due to any given kind of sex you can have shape or size changes, but that’s about it. To find out about what…

Orgasms will tend to last anywhere from a few seconds to less than a minute for most people, most of the time. Orgasms for people with vaginas often tend to last a bit longer than orgasms for people with penises – but for people of all genders, we’re still talking within an average of a few seconds…

Obviously, this is more of a personal judgment call than anything else. But personal ethics and the integrity of a relationship (as well as your own integrity) aside, you are likely to have some practical problems with not being truthful about faking and then expecting the sex to improve. I have to…

You already know that no method of contraception is 100% effective to prevent pregnancy. You probably also know, however, that there are reliable methods which are very effective when used properly, and that if you use contraception correctly and consistently, pregnancy becomes a whole lot less likely. But did you know that by doubling up and using two methods, with almost any combination you use, you can get mighty close to that 100% with most combos?

The Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) recently declared sexually transmitted infections (STIs) an “epidemic,” citing the 19 million new infections that occur in the US annually. Gonorrhea and chlamydia are the No. 1 and No. 2 most reported infectious diseases in the country. An…

You gotta know it’s a bit silly to ask a question and tell us what we’re going to say. It’s not like we don’t understand wanting to orgasm. So, adjust your ears and your expectations, okay? My own script is likely different than what you’d write for me. I’m hearing a few different things here which…

You’re right, some antibiotics can interfere with hormonal birth control. Amoxicillin is noted as one of those antibiotics. It might cause your birth control to be less effective, so you’ll want to make sure to use a backup method during any sexual contact until you start your next cycle of pills…

Pregnancy tests, both the blood and the urine type, are pretty darn accurate these days. So if you’ve had two negative home tests (HPTs) and a negative test at the doctor’s office (assuming they were all correctly taken and done at least 14 days after the last time you were sexually active), then…

Thanks for writing. I am sorry that your heart is hurting and I hope that I can shed some light onto your situation. Before I do so I just want to let you know that I’ll be using the term trans women rather than “she-male.” The term “she-male” is a slang term used to describe people assigned male at…

Before I answer your questions, I’d like to commend you for even getting yourself to the doctor for your yearly check up (a chore that many of us seem to avoid!) I’m also glad that your gynecologist tested you for Chlamydia because the CDC (Centers for Disease Control) recommends yearly Chlamydia…

Unfortunately, we don’t come with an “oven ready” light that lets us know any medication we’re taking is working. This includes birth control pills. So the only thing you really can do is make sure you’re taking your pills correctly (same time everyday, not doing/taking anything to interfere, etc.)…

Really, truly, the longer we’re in relationships, the more we’re going to go through times when for one partner or the other – sometimes both – libidos are low or sex just isn’t a high priority. That’s okay. To expect our sex lives as time goes on to resemble how they were when we were brand new…

Do you think you or your friends are too young to know if you’re straight? Hint: there’s actually no right answer to that one. If you say yes, people at 14 can know they’re heterosexual, then it only makes sense to posit that if a person can know they are one orientation at that age, they can know…

Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Smart words from a smart lady, and one who certainly also didn’t fit the beauty ideals nor a lot of people’s ideas about how women should be in her day. Of course it feels nice to have some attention sometimes…

Here’s the kicker: there’s nothing we can do or know which will guarantee that a partner will enjoy something we do. Nothing. One facet of readiness for partnered sex has to do with being able to accept that and be okay with it. Another part is knowing that no matter what we do, there are probably…

There is no one way to do things when it comes to sex which will guarantee that a partner sticks around or does not. There also is not any one way men feel or behave when it comes to sex and relationships, nor any one way women do. Generalizations about these kinds of things are very infrequently…

It’s actually, in my book, not grey at all. I’m a very talented cook, and my friends love it when I cook for them. Some crave my meals intensely. If I have a friend over, and I have them smell some fresh basil I picked up at the market, show them a beautiful tomato from my garden, does my doing that…

Honestly? The biggest fantasy driving the bus here is that the length of time your erection lasts has much to do with your partner’s pleasure (or yours, to some degree) at all. That isn’t to say that you won’t likely have sex partners – some, plenty, even all of them – who don’t enjoy sex that…