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Leave a note for her saying, “Hey, I know you really dig your new guy and all, but I was wondering if you and me could hang out together sometime. Just us. You’re still my best friend no matter what, and I miss you.” Some people get really wrapped up in the excitement of new relationships, and they…

It’s the position that you and your partner find immensely pleasurable at that moment in place and time. The answer to your question is going to change based on where you are, how you’re feeling, and who you’re with. So you and your partner get to figure out what’s working and what’s not. If…

As loving and wonderful as your girlfriend may be, she needs to understand that you have boundaries, too. Negotiating sex can be a major hurdle for many couples, and there are a lot of people in your position – you are trying to live your life by a certain batch of morals, and they’re in conflict…

Jules: what you’re asking is obviously something I’m not going to be able to sum up in one page. Partnered sex and all of sexuality is a huge topic! But what I can do is set you up with some primers to get you started, and give you some context so that it all makes more sense. How you have sex with…

Probably not, no. There are a few reasons why this is the case. One of them, particularly in clinics which also provide abortions, is an issue of simple security. It is dangerous to work in these clinics because of a history of in-clinic violence, and some time ago, one way people who did violence…

There are two colloquialisms for what you’re asking about. When a person has a penis that looks about the same size flaccid (soft) that it does erect, folks colloquially call that person a “shower,” because their penis shows itself to be pretty much the same as it is erect. When a person has a penis…

The first thing I’d ask you is if you – and your boyfriend – feel too young to possibly be someone’s parent. I ask that, because one huge risk with unprotected sex is pregnancy. Statistically, in less than one year, 80-90% of people (and remember, too, teens are often far more fertile than us…

Frankly, if your first thought is to try and change your body – rather than to change the dynamic of this relationship or get out of it – something is horribly amiss. Your husband is clearly ignorant when it comes to bodies. A penis – be it his or anyone else’s – doesn’t have the capacity to…

For the record, there isn’t anything abnormal about oral sex: it’s a very common practice. People (and other animals) have been engaging in oral sex for a mighty long time. As well, the risks of infections from oral sex are actually substantially less in most cases than from vaginal intercourse, and…

You just take whatever time you need, at whatever pace you need, to build trust with a new partner or potential partner. Being assaulted of course impacts how we trust people and makes it more difficult to trust, especially when you were assaulted by people who you trusted, who those around you…

I hear people talking about foreplay and pretend like I know what it is, but I have never really understood. Heather Corinna answers this question about foreplay.

It’s not bad at ALL to have laughter be part of your sex life: it’s ideal. Laughter is an expression of joy, after all, and ideally, sex should be an expression of joy, too. Nervous laughter is also okay: sex with a partner can make us feel anxious, nervous, or highly excited and it’s normal for…

The most likely possibility is that what you’re seeing coming out of your vagina is simply semen: the sexual fluid which carries sperm. The vagina isn’t a bottomless pit: it ends with the cervix, the base of the uterus. The opening to the cervix – called the os – is incredibly small. It can dilate…

(Amsinha’s question continued) Whenever I’m alone my mind drifts to the fact that I was already 18 and that he didn’t exactly rape me and also that I wasn’t careful enough or alert enough. I feel as if I should have known that when he complimented my hair that there was something inappropriate. Most…

Fantastic question! It’s so important for people to remember that usually when we’re looking to engage in activities of any kind where there are some risks of negative or unwanted outcomes, it’s usually because we also want to take risks of discovering or getting some positive or wanted outcomes. If…

If you go to an OB/GYN and your mother asks them to do this, the very first thing that should happen would be for that doctor to explain that is not what should motivate a parent to get their child sexual healthcare, and hopefully, they’ll also tell her that going to the gynecologist should be about…

Travis, it sounds like you do already seem to have a pretty good idea of what her concerns are, and it sounds like you’re doing a great job in trying to be sure that whatever you do is something you both can feel good about. In other words, I think you need my help less than you probably think that…

Spring fever has sprung! Just as a sobering CDC study report breaks that one in four American teen girls has a sexually transmitted disease, crime-busting Gov. Eliot Spitzer resigns for itching an eighty-grand, reportedly condom-free prostitution habit. Instantly the scandal storm blows bigger and…

From what you’ve said here, I’m not sure the pill necessarily sounds like the best option for you at this point in your life. The pill is a good method of contraception, but it isn’t for everybody. As far as the side effects go, do understand that they’re not guaranteed to happen for everybody…

Understand that if a person with a penis is aroused and/or erect, then there is likely some pre-ejaculate at some point. If his penis is visible, you will likely be able to see it, but for obvious reasons, if it’s inside your vagina or your mouth, you’re not going to be able to see it, and both you…

It’s typically assumed that sex and gender are the same. They’re not. What’s gender all about, then? What is the range of gender and gender identity, and how does gender impact our lives and how we live them?

A partner addressing your worries or nervousness about any kind of sex by telling you you need to “grow up,” needs to grow up WAY more than you do. In a word, if that’s how he responds to this, I’m less worried about him dumping you, and more concerned about you sticking around with the likes of him…

When something big is brand new to us, and carries risks with it – negative or positive, and in the case of sex with someone, both – it’s entirely normal to be pretty darn nervous or anxious. And when people with penises are nervous or anxious, quite commonly they won’t be able to get or sustain…

When I was very little, I developed really severe atopic eczema. My parents and doctors had the worst time getting it under control, but eventually they managed to find the right set of lifestyle changes and medications to take care of the problem. I didn’t really have a lot of issues (as long as I…

All I can do is to strongly encourage you not to deceive anyone into becoming a parent. Would you want someone to trick you into pregnancy or parenting? Given, it’s you who would become pregnant and give birth, not a guy, but manipulating someone into the position of creating a pregnancy when they…