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Hi Merie, For the record, that awkward sex happens from time to time, no matter who you are, how many partners you’ve had, and how many times you’ve been with said partner. It’s okay, and it’s completely normal. You aren’t doing anything wrong either. Have you told him that while you enjoy being on…

Lisa, I can’t implore you enough not to take this personally and not to think about this as you being inadequate. You’re not inadequate: you two just wanted different things. Our needs and wants and someone else’s needs and wants are just not always going to mesh, even when one or both of us really…

The short answer is… when she’s okay with or wants a pregnancy or a sexually transmitted infection. Here’s the longer answer, since it’s a bit more complicated than that. To get you up-to-speed with the basic facts, when it comes to pregnancy, of every 100 women who have vaginal intercourse…

(CMH’s question continued) He likes petite girls, as do most guys. I am tall (for a woman) and big. I weigh over 200 pounds, though I carry it well. I do not have a pretty face, though I would not call it ugly. It is also not particularly interesting. He told me that even though I have a good…

Fordyce’s spots – if that’s what we’re talking about here – are nothing to be concerned with. If they are on the lower shaft of the penis – rather than around the glans – and you have had them for a while and have not been sexually active with a partner, that’s certainly a possible issue here…

I’m going to assume that when you say “sex” you’re talking about vaginal intercourse. If your boyfriend is going to have partners with vaginas who experience pleasure with sex, he’s going to have to adjust his way of thinking. Most people with vaginas – around 70% – are NOT going to reach orgasm…

See that part where you say you don’t know what he wants you to do? When you two had that conversation – or better still the next day or now, when he’s sober, and you can even ask him if he meant what he said in the first place – your next question would have been exactly that. In other words,…

While out of town this weekend, between two plane trips and a couple late evenings up reading, I started and polished off Elliott Currie’s The Road to Whatever: Middle-Class Culture and the Crisis of Adolescence in very short order.

(Steve’s question continued) I feel weird having to rely to masturbation while having her. We’ve messed around a lot, meaning making-out, I’ve done almost everything to her breasts, and rubbed her vagina through her clothes with my hand and penis(dry humping), she has played with my penis through my…

(Elizabeth’s question continued) I tried to show him porn and he literally left the room. I know he isn’t gay because whatever hatred he has for the female body is only a fraction of how turned off he is by the male body. He says that he sees sexual things as a chore and would rather masturbate…

You just answered your own question. You don’t need me at all! :) If you don’t think you can handle a sex life right now, and you don’t feel like sex outside of a certain context – which you are not currently in or don’t have the opportunity to be in – fits with what you believe or is going to be…

In an advice answer on Crisis Pregnancy Centers here at Scarleteen, and also reprinted for my column at RH Reality Check, I originally included a link to a hotline – the American Pregnancy Helpline – as one option for women looking for support with a pregnancy they wanted to sustain rather going…

Everyone has a body. Everyone has sexuality. The problem is that not everyone has a healthy or positive image of her/his body, especially in regard to his or her sexuality. And who can blame them? Just look around: Sex is everywhere, because sex sells. The sad side to this cultural phenomenon is…

You know, it can be pretty stressful for guys to feel like they have to have an erection… OR ELSE. It can also be very stressful for anyone to have intercourse for the first time or with a new partner. The real pisser is that stress is one of the most common reasons a guy won’t get an erection or…

Kasey: before I say anything else, let me just say that I’m very sorry this all went down this way for you. You holding back tears while continuing to give someone oral sex (which disturbs me), your husband having intercourse with someone else and you feeling unable to say anything, your feelings of…

You’re not the only person confused by this term, so let’s see if we can’t clear it up for everyone once and for all. When healthcare professionals ask that question, they are asking from a sexual health perspective. In other words, what they are wanting to know is if a patient or client has…

There’s no reason for you to feel guilty or horrible about having the thoughts and concerns that you do. Being exclusive with someone is about making a choice, and a choice that is – ideally – meaningful if and when we make it. If it was rote or easy to make it wouldn’t be meaningful. If…

Actually, that’s not true about animals. But I’m glad you brought it up, because these are some of my favorite kinds of questions. We can find groups of animals engaging in almost any kind of behavior we find human beings engaging in. When it comes to oral sex – be that with a partner or done by…

If what you are having is, in fact, an allergic reaction, then you can treat it like any other allergy. You can take a general allergy medication, like a Benadryl tablet. In terms of your genital symptoms and soothing them fast, I’d suggest a cool, bubble-less bath. You might try adding oatmeal to…

From the ACLU blog today: We just received word today that the Third Circuit struck down a federal Internet censorship law as unconstitutional. The law, called the Child Online Protection Act, imposed civil and criminal penalties on those who place “harmful to minors” material on the Web.

Oddly enough, I was just pulling up these statistics for something else the other day. Very few people in the world will have but one sexual or romantic partner in the whole of their lifetimes. A census sponsored by the CDC from 1999 to 2002 found that on average, adult men between the ages of 30…

This website provides information for survivors, as well as ways to contact local shelters, legal help, and counselors. Most of the information is for residents of the Ottawa, Ontario region, but there is also information for other Canadian provinces.

There has been no reliable data to indicate that the hormonal birth control available today causes infertility (contrary to what certain groups of individuals who wish to limit women’s reproductive choices may say), no matter how long one is on it. So there is really no science to support the idea…

A Cervical/Vaginal Self Exam guide from the feminist women’s health center

Hundreds of real people bravely tell their own abortion stories so that you can better understand abortion from a real-life, first person perspective. FWHC Abortion Stories Shout Your Abortion: Stories