Sex & Sexuality

You know, this happens a lot. That, after a person becomes sexually active, or does a given new sexual thing, they’ll notice what appear to be changes with their body. But when it all gets sorted out, it pretty much always turns out that there wasn’t anything different. In other words, that your…

I think it’s sage to listen to yourself when you say that maybe you don’t want to get into something you’re both not sure about and are not sure you’ll like. If only one partner has any interest in doing an activity, and the other either has none, or is opposed to it, it’s generally best to just…

It’s very unlikely anything is wrong with you: younger people almost never have physiological/physical barriers to orgasm. Usually, when a younger person isn’t reaching orgasm, it’s either psychological or it’s about just not getting what a person needs to get there. I’d like you to take a look at…

That’s pretty normal as partners get more comfortable having sex together, so you should let him know that doesn’t mean anything is wrong. But if he’s not satisfied with that, the trick generally is just to mix it up: to mix in way more activities than intercourse, and to focus on his whole body…

Plenty! Without more information than that, it’s hard for me to know what’s been part of your sexual activity. For instance, if by sexually active, you just mean with partners – for any activity – then I’d suggest going back to your own drawing board, with your own two hands, and finding out about…

I’m going to suggest you look at reciprocity in sex – the idea that one person gives something, so the other should get something of equal value back – in a different way than you might be used to. (Excerpted and adapted from S.E.X., the Scarleteen book.)

Any way you do it, however you define it. In other words, what “sex” even IS varies pretty widely from person-to-person and day-to-day, and can be or include ANY number of sexual activities. Intercourse is sex, but so is oral sex, anal sex, manual sex, making out, frottage, role play, cybersex…

It is actually quite different, presuming you mean vaginal intercourse when you say “regular” sex. That doesn’t mean your boyfriend is lying, he just may not know doesn’t know any better, since he probably hasn’t been on the receiving end of anal sex or any kind of intercourse before, or may not…

Unless your boyfriend’s penis is shaped like a tuna can, his size or yours are probably not the primary issue. For starters, when you’re using your condom (because I know anyone writing me surely isn’t a dummy and is therefore using a condom), use a generous amount of extra lubricant that is latex…

You know, “slut” is both a really subjective and often a really derogatory term. A lot of people use it out of spite, because they’re afraid of sexuality (or, more accurately, women’s or queer sexuality), and because they’re afraid of people who enjoy it, and on some level, perhaps, secretly jealous…