Pleasure & Sexual Response

Ways that we and our bodies can react when any kind of sex or desire is in the mix, including feeling good, enjoying ourselves, orgasm, or barriers to those and other kinds of sexual response.

Articles and Advice in this area:

Article
  • Gabrielle Kassel

Bullet vibrators are shaped like a baby carrot. Portable, petite, and discreet, bullets are great for first-time sex toy users and those who enjoy gentler stimulation.

Article
  • Gabrielle Kassel

Suction toys use pulses of air and gentle air pressure changes to stimulate nerve-dense areas without actually touching them directly. They create a sucking or throbbing sensation that can feel like oral sex.

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  • Gabrielle Kassel

Pinpoint sex toys prove that with pleasure products, more or bigger isn’t always better. Unlike wand and palm vibrations, which transmit sensation to a wide surface area, these toys excel at targeting one, tiny, nerve-dense spot. For those who enjoy ultra-exact external stimulation, they’re a great…

Article
  • Sara Rowe Mount

Stereotypes and false beliefs about the sexualities of cis men aren’t exclusive to conservative circles. They have been pervasive all over the place for decades, even in the medical profession and scientific literature.

Article
  • Maya Walsh-Little

A journey doesn’t need to have a destination. Approaching masturbation with a curiosity-focused mindset can help you learn more about yourself.

Article
  • Hans Lindahl

“How do I enjoy sex?” is hardly a question that’s unique to intersex people, but some of the answers to that question are different than they might be for people who aren’t intersex.

Advice
  • Heather Corinna

Jdusjsisnn asks: So I have a girlfriend and we have tried to have sex a few times, and at the beginning of it- when we work into from kissing/ touching I’m erect and when I receive oral sex I’m usually also erect but once we’re about to begin vaginal sex I tend to get flaccid enough to where I can’t…

Advice
  • Heather Corinna

Hi Ghost, It sounds like pleasure is a bit tricky to figure out - both by yourself and with a partner. Fortunately, there are solutions! You’ve touched on something important by mentioning that you don’t experience much pleasure not only in your genitals, but also in most of your skin. It might help…

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  • Sam Wall

A short, fast, sex ed summary about pleasure and fulfillment.

Advice
  • s.e. smith

Sex isn’t a tit-for-tat experience, but communicating can help you build a mutually pleasurable and fun sex life.