Abuse

Clarisse: the very first thing I want to say, and want you to try hard to hear, is that you are not abnormal, nor are you some kind of basket case. You’re simply someone healing from a serious injury. With at least one out of every four women being raped or sexually abused at some point in your…

(Part of How You Guys - That’s Right, You GUYS – Can Prevent Rape, and continued from How can men know if someone is giving consent or not?) What more can we do to stop rape? There is a lot more all of us can do to help disengage our rape culture beyond not raping someone else. Since again, most…

(Part of How You Guys - That’s Right, You GUYS – Can Prevent Rape, and continued from What is Rape & What Is It Like to Be Raped?) The vast majority of people who rape are and have always been male. That does not mean that most men are rapists. While many women will be raped, the majority will not…

(Part of How You Guys - That’s Right, You GUYS – Can Prevent Rape, and continued from Why Do Men Need to Know About Rape?) Rape is when one person wants and pursues a sexual act on, to or inside another person who does not want to participate, and who does not fully and freely consent to take part…

(Continued from How You Guys – That’s Right, You GUYS – Can Prevent Rape) Rape is often framed as about women, but it’s not. Something done TO us really isn’t about us. It’s the things that we choose to do which are about us, which is why it’s such an error for rape to be framed as a women’s issue…

Rape is often framed as about women, but it’s not. Something done TO us really isn’t about us. It’s the things that we choose to do which are about us, which is why it’s such an error for rape to be framed as a women’s issue or about women: it’s almost always a men’s issue and really about men. Find out what men need to know about rape and rapists, what you can do to be sure you have consent with sex, other ways to help with rape prevention, and why your help is so important.

Really, all I needed to do was to get to your second paragraph, and then read your last few sentences to know that a) this guy isn’t good news and b) you really don’t want to be in this relationship, which I’d say is a very good thing. Can you imagine your almost-thirty-year-old self making a deal…

I don’t know of anyone who would think that they needed to guard their drink from someone they thought of as a best friend. I sure wouldn’t. There’s just no sound reason, at all, for you to think that for some reason, you should have thought to do something that pretty much no one on earth would…

Is it possible to have sex with someone while they’re asleep? Sure it is. Is it likely they won’t wake up at all? Not so much. Is it likely that person would wake up and think it was awesome someone was engaging them in sex without their permission in advance? Probably not. More to the point, is it…

Rape is when someone forces, coerces or nags you to do ANY kind of sexual activity you don’t want to engage in, or when someone has sex ON you or TO you, rather than 100% WITH you. A partner forcing his hands into your pants and fingering you when you do not want that is a rape. Whether or not it…