What’s sex? What’s sexuality? How do people experience and actively express their sexualities, by themselves, with partners or both? How can we take part in sex in ways that are wanted and consensual, physically and emotionally safe and enjoyable for everyone? How do you figure out what you like? How can you communicate about sex? How do you deal with feelings like fear, shame, anxiety, dysphoria and other body image issues? How do you create the kind of sexual life you want? You’ll find the answers to all these and more here.
Sex & Sexuality
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Breathe: Risks, Realities, and Safer Alternatives to Choking and Breath Play
- Heather Corinna
- Giselle Woodley
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- Andrew Gurza
When your disabled body decides to literally crap out on you, how do you bring sexy back?
Advice
- s.e. smith
Sex isn’t a tit-for-tat experience, but communicating can help you build a mutually pleasurable and fun sex life.
Advice
- Heather Corinna
I’m always so sad to hear anyone who has the idea that needing – or just plain wanting! – lubricant is some kind of problem, means something is wrong with someone, or that that need is unusual. I also always find myself struggling to understand those feelings, even though I have heard many women…
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- Marianne Kirby
A lot of people are talking about “bad sex” when they mean coercive sex. So let’s have a conversation about when sex just isn’t satisfying.
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- Heather Corinna
Surviving in the sexual wilds – and having your great adventures be just that, great – involves some basic smarts, skills and conscious effort. Let’s see what we can do to help make all your trails happy ones.
Advice
- Mo Ranyart
The good news is that there’s no secret to bringing up unconventional sex acts with a partner; the same basic communication skills that are needed to talk about any other kinds of sex are what’s needed here. The bad news is…well, that there’s no secret to it! The simple answer to your question is…
Advice
- Heather Corinna
I want to first reassure you that I’m sure you’re not doing anything wrong, and that this isn’t about something being wrong with you. That includes whatever level of desire — or frequency of desire — you find you have for sex in general or with a partner. I also don’t think this is probably just…
Advice
- Jacob Mirzaian
Hayley, I’m so sorry you’re experiencing the crappy feelings of ‘not being enough’, or even of someone potentially being ‘bored’ of you. It can be extremely painful to have those thoughts and I think it would be best for you to do what you can to start entertaining them as little as possible. It’s…
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- s.e. smith
Disabled people are often nervous when they set out into the world of partnered sex. Because it’s such a taboo subject, they may not know where to start, since they’ve rarely heard people affirming the right to sexual autonomy for disabled people, or providing information about how to have safe, fun, loving, saucy, steamy, great sex while disabled.
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- s.e. smith
We all know that consent can be sexy — and also that navigating sexual consent can be tricky. Sometimes, disability makes it more complicated, so it’s important to take some time out to talk about that as you explore the world of dating and sexuality through the disability lens.
