Sex & Sexuality

It’s very typical for condom use to contribute to longer lasting erections. Because they do reduce sensation somewhat – especially if you’re not putting a little lube inside, or using the thinnest condoms – and because the ring at the bottom of a condom also constricts the base of the penis, that…

Before I say anything else, just know that you get to feel whatever you feel, and that there isn’t anything wrong with either not feeling ready for – or just plain old not wanting – any given sexual activity. Anything I say from here on out is not intended to influence you to make any one choice…

Unless you’re masturbating with something that isn’t sanitary – such as a toy or object that can’t really be sanitized, or with unwashed hands – masturbation can’t cause disease or infection, just like you, say, putting your fingers in your mouth isn’t going to cause disease or infection unless…

It seems to me that we have four likely possibilities here when it comes to the pro-domme websites. 1) Your boyfriend is simply curious about and/or turned on by BDSM. Pro-domme sites are often free, and tend to have photos as well as information about BDSM. Some even have some bonafide, all-out…

Know what? While alcohol can reduce a person’s inhibitions, another thing it often does reduce how aroused – how turned on – a person can get. It also tends to inhibit orgasm, as well as vaginal lubrication. And that’s just the minor stuff. Date rape is far more common when alcohol is involved…

Before the two of you do anything sexual, I’d say it’s REALLY important that you work out the issue of him seeing sex as a way for you to prove your love. It’s not. Take a look at the bare basics from our Sex Readiness Checklist: If either of you wants to do it because you feel you must or should…

(Eoin’s questions continued…) 1) Abstinence-until-marriage is not superior (this will also come up later with respect to “the parents” and other concerns with my girlfriend); is it such a big deal if I have sex with my girlfriend tomorrow, in a couple months, or several years from now, including…

Of all the antidepressants around, Zoloft is actually most often linked to sexual side effects, and inability to reach orgasm, ejaculate with orgasm, erectile dysfunction and impaired libido (sexual drive) are common effects of Zoloft (and other SSRIs). So, since that is a very likely possibility…

I can certainly do my best. Let’s start with the basics. Thing is, “premature ejaculation” is actually not the best term in the world, because it is seriously vague and incredibly arbitrary. I can tell you that I run too slow, for instance, and what you’re likely going to ask me is “Compared to who…

There isn’t anything TO do save to wait for when she does also want to have sex with you. Really, have a think about this. Would you want it any other way? Who would want to have sex with someone who didn’t want to have sex with them just as much? And unless both people really want to, is it really…