Disability

Having a disability doesn’t mean not having sexuality, but you’d never know that from the messaging out there. Here’s sex, relationships and bodies information for people with a range of disabilities, from neurodiversity to chronic illness to mobility or cognitive disability. Nothing about us without us: our disability information is almost always written by people with disabilities themselves.

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  • Heather Corinna

While it’s common for women – especially young women – to feel pain or discomfort with sex, it’s not “normal” in that it has to happen or there isn’t an alternative. Sex is not supposed to hurt: it’s supposed to feel very good. If you’re bleeding after sex every time, and it’s also not feeling…

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  • Heather Corinna

The most common reasons for what you are experiencing would be: • Beginning vaginal entry before you are really, truly, fully aroused. As in, aroused to the point where you are very nearly begging your partner to begin intercourse because you just can’t wait another minute for it. THAT is the point…

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  • Heather Corinna

Take a big breath. It’s all going to be okay, and there’s just no reason for you to be so scared. For starters, it’s totally normal for ejaculate to run out like that after intercourse where the partner with the penis ejaculates without a condom. That’s plain old gravity: when you’re laying down or…

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  • Heather Corinna

So long as you know – not just by guessing, but via regular, complete reproductive health exams – that you’re in sound reproductive health, and so long as that abdominal pain is really only showing up after intercourse, the most likely culprit for that symptom would simply be that you’re not…

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  • Sarah Riley

Have you seen your health care provider about this problem yet? If not, then that’s the very first place to go. You need to get checked out and make sure that everything physically is alright with you right now. You should also make sure that you tell your health care provider specifically that you…

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  • Heather Corinna

The most obvious culprits for persistent bleeding following intercourse would be: cervicitis ( an inflammation of your cervix) the sexually transmitted infections chlamydia or gonorrhea vaginal dryness or trauma/injury or uterine fibroids If you’re having sex using only the pill, the STIs would be…

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  • Heather Corinna

It is pretty normal to be a bit drier just after menstruation, and tampons also rob you of even more vaginal moisture. While you may be highly aroused, that doesn’t always mean plenty of natrual lubrication. If you aren’t using lubricant with the sex that you’re having, that’s the very first thing I…

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  • Heather Corinna

Jako: let’s work backwards with your questions. For starters, her itchiness may have been irritation from either the condom OR the spermicide. Spermicides are essentially dish soap, and genital tissue is delicate, so you can imagine that for a lot of people, it doesn’t feel so good. Since irritation…

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  • Heather Corinna

There are a few likely possibilites for this. One might be plain old vasocongestion – when a person becomes sexually aroused, the whole pelvic area fills with blood, which is how erection happens in penis, and vulval engorgement – swelling of the clitoris and vulva – happens in those body parts…

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  • Heather Corinna

Most topical antibiotics state on the label that they aren’t to be used on mucous membranes, alas. But you can certainly check the label on any topical antibiotics you have around the house to see. So, with a genital injury – I’m assuming you mean you have an injury around your vaginal opening? –…