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Adjusting to a shared living situation where you and your boyfriend will probably have roommates and neighbors close by can be a challenge, but giving some thought to this beforehand, as you’re doing, will go a long way towards helping you keep up your enjoyable sex life without alienating the folks…

Having a parent walk in on us when we’re doing something sexual is one of those things that is awkward at best and awful at worst. Our families, while not the only source of messages about sex, are definitely one source that leaves a big impression. So, it’s not surprising that, even though you’ve…

“AND OMFG I WAS OVULATING, TOO!!!!!!!” This sentence is becoming familiar to us. More young people seem to be developing some new knowledge about fertility cycles. I think that’s great. Well, kind of great. Thing is, lots of the information you’re getting, or think you have, is often dodgy, only half the picture, or just flat-out wrong.

Everything you’ll probably ever need to know about safer sex barriers, like which to use, how to use them, how to get more comfortable with them, and how surprisingly cute they are.

I really wanted to love Lily Allen’s new song and video, “Hard Out Here.” It’s about time for an empowering, feminist response to “Blurred Lines” in the mainstream music industry. As much as I wish Allen’s song was the answer we’ve been waiting for, it’s truly not.

I’m going to answer your first question last. What would I, personally, do if I found out my partner had engaged in oral sex (or any other kind of sex) a certain number of times? I’d figure their sexual past is theirs to judge as they please and would hope they thought the same way about my past. I…

Let’s tackle those apparently “raging” hormones first. Having strong sexual desires is nothing to be ashamed of. People have a range of sex drives, from high to non-existent, and even then, that’s rarely static: in other words, it’s often less a “way people are,” than a way someone is at a given…

When everyone seems to be so preoccupied with labels, it’s hard to really explain to someone that you’re a ‘genderqueer-gendernonconforming-demisexual-‘gay’-transman’ and not have them look at you funny.

Sparknolee’s question continued: Whenever we’re out, he says he sees boys look at me and he wants to punch them. I find this is too far as he even admitted himself he sees “hot girls” when he’s out but has assured that he never sees them as a girlfriend. I understand that. Whenever he says he…

Some people struggle with strong pregnancy fears when there isn’t a pregnancy or hasn’t even been any real risk of pregnancy. What’s that really about, and how can you move forward?

Let me first say that questions like yours are really common. Sorting through fantasies can be a tricky business and it’s sound to think about whether what we fantasize about is something we actually want to try. Our sexual fantasies, just like other kinds of fantasy, often aren’t things we want to…

Ah – long distance relationships! It seems more and more as if, at some point in life, experiencing long-distance with a romantic or sexual partner (or friend, or family member: any kind of person we care about and can be in a relationship with) is inevitable. In fact, our volunteer Joey wrote an…

This doesn’t just go both ways, it goes – it needs to go – ALL the ways. For everybody. Always. I really appreciate you asking about this. It’s something we remind people about often, both on the site and in our social media, but I feel like we can’t talk about this enough or provide enough…

You’re welcome! What you’re asking about here is something a lot of people experience and wonder about whether they have a disability or not. Even if these kinds of uncertainties about our sexualities weren’t pretty common, even if what you’re talking about was unique to you and a few other people…

Hey there, Dylan: I’m really glad you came here with these questions: I think they’re some good ones. Let’s start with talking about what goes on, or can go on, on the dance floor with these girls, and with consent, and then we can get to what your friends are saying and how to deal with that. You…

Anastasia, the main character, knows nothing about kink or BDSM to start out with - her new lover Christian Grey is her only source of information. And Christian Grey - or rather, his creator, E.L. James - has some pretty whack ideas about how BDSM works.

I’m going to make probably the biggest understatement of the year: gender is complicated. As obvious a statement as that is, it’s still true, and I think it’s worth repeating. I think one thing a lot of people - even many gender-savvy folks or fellow trans people - sometimes forget is that there are…

I’ve noticed recently that, of all the hygiene product advertisements—ads for deodorant, toilet paper, diapers, soap, tissues, etc.—menstrual pad and tampon commercials are by far the weirdest. Many involve cheerful women in colorful clothes and tampons that bloom and twirl in mid-air. Many…

Some helps for the care and keeping of you when you’re stressed, depressed, riddled with anxiety or fear or going through something wretched and trying to come out the other side.

Dating this wonderful person pushed me to think about some things in new and challenging ways. Here are some of my favorite lessons that I learned when I dated a woman.

This woman’s body just produced a tiny, squirming human being—we should celebrate it for this incredible feat! Instead, the media chooses to focus on presumed “flaws” of a person’s body post-pregnancy, encouraging Kate—and women like her—to return (and immediately: do not pass go, do not collect $200) to the body she inhabited before she gave birth.

First off, I’m glad to hear that your relationship in general, including your sex life, sounds like it’s going well right now. That’s certainly a great place to start from! There’s no type of sex or orgasm that’s “better” or more appropriate for a certain point in a relationship than another. So if…

This is for all of you who hold onto the staunch belief that science is boring and is kept behind the walls of laboratories and between the covers of dry, boring textbooks; all of you who think science is exclusively practiced by mad scientists in white lab coats, or simply is a bunch of facts and…

One of the things that can be hard, when choosing to come out to parents, is the fact that you might feel like you have to educate them about gender issues, both on a general level and in terms of your own identity; this can make a process that might already feel overwhelming or stressful even harder to manage. Letting an organization that’s dedicated to this sort of education do some of the work for you can take some of that weight off of your shoulders.