Then don’t! Here’s a feast of support and help for those who want to say no, not now, or not-like-this to sex or sexual relationships.
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- Heather Corinna
Hooray for thinking about what you might want or feel ready for in intimate or dating relationships before you pursue them! So often people just kind of passively fall into relationships and only then try and figure what they want and need. It’s not impossible to do it that way, and there are some…
- Karyn Fulcher
Madison Kimrey is, in a word, amazing. You might know her from the letter she wrote to Phyllis Schlafly a few months ago, but that’s not the only thing she’s done that’s so fantastic.
- Onionpie
Feel like being able to clearly set boundaries, stick to them, and assert yourself must require superpowers? Nope! You’ve already got all the goods: here’s how to develop and use them!
- Sam Wall
- Isabella Rotman
A nifty little how-to for making and safely using sex toys for masturbation. Also starring: possibly the cutest little sex toy illustrations of ever.
- Sam Wall
Hello Me-from-the-past, I’m glad to see you discovered a means of asking questions of your future self. I kid, but believe me when I say that your questions strike a chord with anyone who’s found themselves drawn towards sex and sexuality based professions (for the purposes of this articles, I’ll…
- Heather Corinna
Just a brief request from us to the world-at-large, primarily with the aim of making our users lives a little easier. Secondarily, it’d also make the lives of those of us who work to help them daily in these areas easier, too, which would sure be nice. Please do us and everyone else a favor and stop…
- Samantha Benac
Not so sure about the foreskin? Whether you have a foreskin yourself or a sexual partner does, this is your article.
- Heather Corinna
The idea that women who sexually express themselves in any number of ways – like something as simple as expressing sexual desires to a partner through words, be it in speech or text – are sluts, people without or with less value or only sexual value, “bad” women or any of the other crappy things…
- Samantha Benac
- Heather Corinna
Casual sex is one of those things that, so far as we know from the study of people and sex in history, people have always done. Given that for most of human history, basic survival was seriously tough, people’s lives and interactions often were more brief than either are now, and many people or…
Data from the Multigenerational Experiences With and Attitudes About Casual Sex Survey (2010 - 2014)
- Heather Corinna
The charts below are excerpts from the far larger, ongoing Multigenerational Experiences With and Attitudes About Casual Sex Survey I have been collecting responses to since 2010. The data below reflects responses given as of 6/8/2014. It is a broad, international survey, with the age of respondents…
- Samantha Benac
- Heather Corinna
What is it? Why would – or wouldn’t – you want it? What makes it more likely to be a blast or a bummer?
- Mo Ranyart
Unchained’s question continued: Around the beginning of this year, I was walking to the bus stop after college and when I was waiting for the traffic lights to give me pass for some odd reason I remembered the article about asexuality I had read on the newspaper’s magazine… and then I remembered…
- Heather Corinna
Healthy intimacy is about intentionally sharing private or vulnerable parts of our hearts, minds, bodies or lives with each other. Why would we do that, how can we do that, and what is and isn’t healthy with intimacy?
- Sam Wall
To start off with, I can assure you that you’re not the first person to be in this situation. So you don’t have to feel as though you’re the only straight person traveling in queer circles who’s ever felt uncomfortable with the way straightness is discussed. And believe me when I say the advice I’m…
- Samantha Benac
In the throes of first love? Did your first love just break up with you, or are you terrified they will? This is your article. Whatever your circumstances with your first love, let’s process some of this stuff together.
- Samantha Benac
When it comes to sex, women are often portrayed as nothing but warm vessels there to validate male partners’ egos. The widespread cultural acceptance of a woman pursuing pleasure for her own sake is a relatively new one (at least in West’s modern history), and we’ve still got a long way to go. It’s no small wonder that many women have a difficult time asking for what they want in general, let alone when it comes to sex.
- Samantha Benac
Sexual shame hinders women in far too many ways. It’s a difficult beast to tackle, as it assumes so many nuanced, subtle forms in our daily lives.
- Samantha Benac
Contrary to a common public opinion, there’s no right or wrong way to have sex.
- Samantha Benac
Women get a whole lot of messages about body hair. So how do you figure out what you want in terms of shaving and other personal grooming?
- Samantha Benac
When we have sex, all of our bodies’ small idiosyncrasies, quirks, and so-called “flaws” are on display. Our natural functions are part of life.