What’s sex? What’s sexuality? How do people experience and actively express their sexualities, by themselves, with partners or both? How can we take part in sex in ways that are wanted and consensual, physically and emotionally safe and enjoyable for everyone? How do you figure out what you like? How can you communicate about sex? How do you deal with feelings like fear, shame, anxiety, dysphoria and other body image issues? How do you create the kind of sexual life you want? You’ll find the answers to all these and more here.
Sex & Sexuality
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Minnie
Hi! So I, 18, have a friends with benefits situation going on with one of my best friends, a trans woman. Neither of us want to be in a relationship with the other, we are just exploring our sexuality...
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cp1213
Hi! I identify as asexual and I always wonder what sexual attraction feels like since I probably don't feel it. I doubt myself sometimes though; if I don't know what sexual attraction is, how am I...
Advice
What does sexual attraction feel like?
- Heather Corinna
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- Isabella Rotman
This is a web comic by Isabella Rotman showing how to make your own strap-on harness, originally published on Oh Joy Sex Toy and republished here with permission. Page 1 Page 2 Page 3 Page 4 Page 5 DIY Full Cover Harness copyright Isabella Rotman 2015
Article
- Quinn Sjogerman
What’s so scary about asking when someone else may say no? Rejection. Read on to dial down the fear factor and learn to accept no like a pro.
Article
- Heather Corinna
Sometimes sex is amazing. Other times, it’s nice. Then there are the times it sucks. How do you deal, and what’s the hidden value in not-at-all-awesome sex?
Advice
- Heather Corinna
When people are new to sex in general, or with a new partner – in your case, both! – it’s totally typical to find they have a hard time reaching orgasm, that it happens more quickly than they’d like, or to experience other ways where sexual responses either aren’t what was expected or what they…
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- Sam Wall
I have a thing for Vincent Price. I don’t just mean that I enjoy his body of work. I mean I feel desire for his body. You may be asking what, exactly, my feelings for a deceased horror icon have to do with the work we do at Scarleteen. The answer is that it gets me thinking about desire and how even those of us who consider ourselves enlightened can fall into old traps when it comes to attraction.
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- Sam Wall
- Isabella Rotman
Our rundown of do-it-yourself sex toys you can make and use with a partner.
Article
- Heather Corinna
Then don’t! Here’s a feast of support and help for those who want to say no, not now, or not-like-this to sex or sexual relationships.
Advice
- Heather Corinna
Hooray for thinking about what you might want or feel ready for in intimate or dating relationships before you pursue them! So often people just kind of passively fall into relationships and only then try and figure what they want and need. It’s not impossible to do it that way, and there are some…
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- Sam Wall
- Isabella Rotman
A nifty little how-to for making and safely using sex toys for masturbation. Also starring: possibly the cutest little sex toy illustrations of ever.
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- Samantha Benac
When it comes to sex, women are often portrayed as nothing but warm vessels there to validate male partners’ egos. The widespread cultural acceptance of a woman pursuing pleasure for her own sake is a relatively new one (at least in West’s modern history), and we’ve still got a long way to go. It’s no small wonder that many women have a difficult time asking for what they want in general, let alone when it comes to sex.
