Sex & Sexuality

If by sex, you mean intercourse, you probably can’t. Even if you could, you or your partner probably wouldn’t enjoy it: the idea intercourse is something people do – or even can do, or would enjoy if they could – for an hour or two just doesn’t square with reality. A lot of people have unrealistic…

There are a couple of things that I want to talk about here. Obviously, the fact that you’re not enjoying sex with your current partner is the big one, but I also want to address what sounds, from what you’ve written, like an assumption about what it means to be dominant or submissive, and a…

MojMycha’s question continued: We’ve been together nearly a year and I am his first partner, both romantically and sexually. He only recently discovered he can feel sexual pleasure (besides that brought by orgasm) and he has never felt it in orgasm. I’ve brought him to orgasm by blow jobs and hand…

This is a web comic by Isabella Rotman showing how to make your own strap-on harness, originally published on Oh Joy Sex Toy and republished here with permission. Page 1 Page 2 Page 3 Page 4 Page 5 DIY Full Cover Harness copyright Isabella Rotman 2015

What’s so scary about asking when someone else may say no? Rejection. Read on to dial down the fear factor and learn to accept no like a pro.

Sometimes sex is amazing. Other times, it’s nice. Then there are the times it sucks. How do you deal, and what’s the hidden value in not-at-all-awesome sex?

When people are new to sex in general, or with a new partner – in your case, both! – it’s totally typical to find they have a hard time reaching orgasm, that it happens more quickly than they’d like, or to experience other ways where sexual responses either aren’t what was expected or what they…

I have a thing for Vincent Price. I don’t just mean that I enjoy his body of work. I mean I feel desire for his body. You may be asking what, exactly, my feelings for a deceased horror icon have to do with the work we do at Scarleteen. The answer is that it gets me thinking about desire and how even those of us who consider ourselves enlightened can fall into old traps when it comes to attraction.

Our rundown of do-it-yourself sex toys you can make and use with a partner.

Then don’t! Here’s a feast of support and help for those who want to say no, not now, or not-like-this to sex or sexual relationships.