Sex & Sexuality

Hi Marie, your boyfriend doesn’t have anything to worry about. You might not even believe this but the man who invented corn flakes, Dr. Harvey Kellogg, as well as the guy who invented Graham crackers, Dr. Sylvester Graham, and most experts of their day, believed that any man who ejaculated “as…

Here’s the thing: when a person with a vagina is sexually aroused, in general, yheir vagina self-lubricates (becomes more wet), their clitoris and parts of the vulva become more erect, and the vaginal opening and vaginal canal relax and expand (become looser). So, to ask to be wet AND “tight” is a…

It’s pretty difficult when we let our self-worth get tied up in whether or not we “satisfy” a partner (especially based on criteria like orgasm). Unfortunately, the only thing you can do is explain what happened to your partner and be as honest as you can (which it sounds like you have been). What…

It sure is. If it hasn’t happened to you yet, yourself – with your boyfriend or when you masturbate alone – it probably will at some point. Orgasm is a full body event that gets our circulation pumping and our nervous system all fired up. After orgasm, in the resolution phase of the sexual…

Sex doesn’t have to be (and for most people to feel satisfied, really shouldn’t be) only or solely about intercourse, and neither a smaller penis nor being of size means that sex has to be, or will be, unsatisfying for either partner. My good friend and colleague Hanne Blank literally wrote the book…

I get the feeling you (and your friend) are misunderstanding some things about your anatomy. Here is our article on the female genital anatomy, and you may find keeping the window open so you can see the illustrations helpful while I try and explain things better for you. For starters, there isn’t…

Sounds like it’s just time to mix it up a bit. There isn’t a lot we can say about sexuality that is generally applicable to everyone – save that we’re all awfully diverse – but one thing we do know is that habit or routines tend to be a buzzkill for a lot of people when it comes to sex. So, if we…

You know, when we’re just plain horny – rather than interested in really sharing sex, emotionally and physically, with another person – the best choice to make is to masturbate. That’s not just best for us, it’s also better for any potential partners: if often isn’t so great to be someone’s…

This can be an issue with men with thinner (less wide) penises during intercourse, especially circumcised men (who don’t have foreskins to provide extra friction), and it’s common enough for it to only become an issue once the female partner is more easily aroused and comfortable – which is as it…

Partnered sex doesn’t have to be quid pro quo. In other words, there’s no need for there to somehow be some perfectly identical exchange of activities, and with opposite-sex partners, that’s not really even all that possible, since you’ve got different parts! What’s important is that things are…