What’s sex? What’s sexuality? How do people experience and actively express their sexualities, by themselves, with partners or both? How can we take part in sex in ways that are wanted and consensual, physically and emotionally safe and enjoyable for everyone? How do you figure out what you like? How can you communicate about sex? How do you deal with feelings like fear, shame, anxiety, dysphoria and other body image issues? How do you create the kind of sexual life you want? You’ll find the answers to all these and more here.
Sex & Sexuality
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Breathe: Risks, Realities, and Safer Alternatives to Choking and Breath Play
- Heather Corinna
- Giselle Woodley
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- Thomas MacAulay Millar
The news is full of the wrong ways to try to have sex. Forever we’ve seen high profile men – almost always men – chasing people for sex, abusively. For the last few years, some high-profile men have been held at least a little accountable for it, which means it is not always swept under the rug anymore. But now that the abuse is more visible, if you stare into that abyss long enough, it might start to stare back at you. You could end up lying on your bed wondering if being a guy while being horny is somehow inherently tainted and gross. Most of us want to find someone or a few someones, for relationships or hookups, but right now, looking at some of that foulness, it might feel like trying to find a partner is a minefield of red flags because men’s sexuality is inextricably abusive. It isn’t.
Advice
- Mo Ranyart
This sounds like a frustrating situation, and I’m sorry this side effect of your testosterone has made things so much trickier in this one respect, but in case it helps to have a reminder: your lack of interest in masturbation or sex doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you, and I’m sorry to…
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- Heather Corinna
A short, fast, sex ed summary about the basics of sexual consent.
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- Sam Wall
- Jenna Gaarde
- Claire P
The super-basics on what lubricant is and why people use it.
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- Sam Wall
- Heather Corinna
A short, fast, sex ed summary about masturbation.
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- Sam Wall
A short, fast, sex ed summary about pleasure and fulfillment.
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- Carrie Kaufman
It’s so important to be able to tell our partners how to support and pleasure us in the ways that work for us.
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- Madison Parrotta
Depending on your disability, everything involving sex may require help – and if your parent is your primary caregiver, bringing up these topics (let alone asking for assistance with them) is not an easy task.
Advice
- Sam Wall
Your question came in well before COVID-19 was on the horizon, but ever since it reared its virus-y head, a LOT of people are finding themselves in your situation. If someone experiences sexual attraction or desire, there is going to be a point in their lives where they feel sexual urges they can’t…
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- Heather Corinna
Real-deal consent requires clear, open and honest communication. And if we’re going ahead and actually being sexual together in some way, that also means an ongoing, nuanced and pretty highly situational process of communication, not just one or two super-quick, super-basic exchanges. Not only is communication as a process essential to keeping it consensual, it’s a big part of sex actually being any good for everyone involved.
