Sex & Sexuality

That all depends on what having it be special really means to you. I know that might sound trite, but we’re all just so different, and what’s meaningful to us varies so much that not knowing anything at all about you before now, what might be special to you isn’t something I can speak to with any…

You know, whether or not a boyfriend wants something from you does not obligate you to give it to him (and vice-versa). I’d totally be down for ditching work for an hour and having sex with my partner right this second. But he’s upstairs in his office doing work for himself right now which he needs…

Ten minutes is actually a longer time, not a shorter one, for an erection to last once intercourse begins, especially for younger men. But even if he lasted a half hour, it’s unlikely that you’d feel satisfied with intercourse alone or reach orgasm that way, since the majority of women do not. Your…

As we’ve said again and again and again, the majority of people with vaginas do NOT reach orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone – and never have – and many do not find vaginal intercourse to even be all that arousing or satisfying. There’s nothing to “fix” when it comes to that – our anatomy, on…

A person who has a strong ethical or religious conflict with having any kind of sex, or sex in certain scenarios – such as being unmarried, if they feel sex is really only right in the context of marriage – is very likely to have that inhibit their sexual response. As well, it’s very normal for…

The term “prude” is such a heavily loaded, judgmental term that I’d really encourage you not to apply it to yourself or anybody else. The implications that come along with that are just not very helpful, so I’d suggest removing that from the way you’re thinking about your situation. There are lots…

There is no one sexual activity, nor any one way to engage in any one sexual activity, which will guarantee orgasm or ejaculation for any given person, or for any given person every time. Plenty of people with penises will reach orgasm and ejaculate with oral sex, though many of those people won’t…

It’s the position that you and your partner find immensely pleasurable at that moment in place and time. The answer to your question is going to change based on where you are, how you’re feeling, and who you’re with. So you and your partner get to figure out what’s working and what’s not. If…

As loving and wonderful as your girlfriend may be, she needs to understand that you have boundaries, too. Negotiating sex can be a major hurdle for many couples, and there are a lot of people in your position – you are trying to live your life by a certain batch of morals, and they’re in conflict…

Jules: what you’re asking is obviously something I’m not going to be able to sum up in one page. Partnered sex and all of sexuality is a huge topic! But what I can do is set you up with some primers to get you started, and give you some context so that it all makes more sense. How you have sex with…