Sex & Sexuality

As you and your partner consider sexual activity, it is great that you’re seeking out information and resources to help prepare you. It also sounds like you have been talking about this together, which means that you’ve already crossed a big hurdle that a lot of people get stuck on. So in order to…

It’s so tragic that anyone is afraid to ask questions about something so important, but it’s an unfortunate reality for a lot of people. Just know that this isn’t a place where you need to be scared to ask anything, okay? This is what we’re here for! Is intercourse supposed to hurt? No, intercourse…

Virginity isn’t something physical we can “break.” And virginity isn’t your hymen: it’s an idea, or a set of values and concepts which varies from person to person, not a body part. In other words, you define what virginity is for yourself, or, if this is based in something religious, or a set of…

(Anonymous’ question continued) I will try my hardest (as in I will work as long as I can) to help her reach orgasm, but she just can’t seem to. Not once have I managed to make her climax during vaginal or oral sex. The most recent time She came very close, but just as she was about to peak she went…

It’s not a bad thing when it isn’t a bad thing for you. NO consensual sexual activity is a bad thing, per the activity alone, when everyone involved WANTS to be doing it, and feels good physically and emotionally doing it. But you’re right: there are a lot of negative attitudes about anal sex and…

I can tell you with no reservations that masturbation did not and cannot: • Cause hair loss • Cause any sort of stammering or other speech impairments • Have any effect whatsoever on your fertility Really, it won’t. It can’t. If it could, more than 95% of the population would be bald, infertile and…

This is one of those questions where the only “right” answer is that it’s not wrong if it isn’t wrong for you. But I’ll give you more than that to work with. If it’s wrong, it’s a wrong thing that the vast majority of the population does at one time or another, most starting so young that we don’t…

Sometimes, when we perceive pain before it happens, we feel pain because (primarily) of that perception. It’s called a perceived pain event when that happens. Suffice it to say, that happens a LOT to a lot of women with first intercourse because of all the stories we hear about how terribly painful…

First things first: with ANY new partner – as in, someone we have not been with for six months or more, and practicing all aspects of safer sex with – we really, truly should be using latex barriers (condoms, in this case) with fellatio. I know, I do, that at 14, it often seems really unlikely…

I’d divide your questions into two groups here: the things you need to ask someone else, and the things you need to ask your girlfriend (and listen to her about). Let’s start with the first group. Per spermicides, in general, if you can avoid using them, you want to avoid using them. Not only are…