Sex & Sexuality

Congratulations, you’re totally normal! It’s strange the way that we often have expectations about the way things “should feel” or “should work” that are totally in opposition to the way that our bodies are made. The vagina itself is not particularly rich in nerve endings. Even more specifically…

I wouldn’t say you’re probably doing anything “wrong” here per say. Unless something is causing pain or injury or simply isn’t wanted, it’s not really fair to characterize it as “wrong.” Have you asked your partner what he likes? If not, then I’d start there. Sure, you could go get a book or a…

You know, genitals smell like genitals smell like genitals. A bit musty, sometimes a bit acidic or salty. And with women, because of the phases of our fertility cycles, and the changes in our cervical mucus and vaginal discharges during every cycle, that smell isn’t always going to be identical. You…

Do you want to have a better sexual experience this time, as well as a relationship of real quality – in which someone loves, likes and cares for you just as you ARE, not based on a persona – with your new boyfriend? If you do, then it’s really important to be honest. When we’re dishonest with…

Humans are mostly made of water, and vaginal fluid is most certainly water-based. This means it can evaporate under normal earth conditions. This is normal. More normal than that is the fact that even when woman are sexually aroused, they may not make enough vaginal lubrication to make prolonged…

It’s important to understand that rape is only sex for the person doing the raping. And really, it’s not even that, since partnered sex is something we do WITH someone, not TO someone, or have done TO us. A person being raped does not have control over the situation, isn’t consenting and IS…

In this post, all I’ve heard about is what your boyfriend likes and wants. You haven’t said a thing about what YOU like and YOU want, and that concerns me. So, I really hope that any sex you’re having is just as much about what you want, what you need, and what you enjoy. To have a healthy sexual…

It sounds like he’s ramming into your cervix. A lot of people with vaginas really don’t like that ‘cause it can be painful. Look at this diagram from Innies & Outies and notice how the vagina ends at the tip of the cervix. The vagina is only about 4 or 5 inches deep, so if a penis is longer than…

Hi Marie, your boyfriend doesn’t have anything to worry about. You might not even believe this but the man who invented corn flakes, Dr. Harvey Kellogg, as well as the guy who invented Graham crackers, Dr. Sylvester Graham, and most experts of their day, believed that any man who ejaculated “as…

Here’s the thing: when a person with a vagina is sexually aroused, in general, yheir vagina self-lubricates (becomes more wet), their clitoris and parts of the vulva become more erect, and the vaginal opening and vaginal canal relax and expand (become looser). So, to ask to be wet AND “tight” is a…