Sex & Sexuality

We get a LOT of questions like this, every single day, and have for as long as we’ve been online. Here are just a few more recent ones: I have been with my boyfriend for the last three years, and just last May we had sex for the first time. I was a virgin, he was not. We have had sex on a few…

Not having sex shouldn’t cause anyone to have a nervous breakdown. And if you feel like your mental health hinges on being sexually active with a partner, that’s not a good thing – or healthy for you or a relationship – and something you’d want to address with a mental health professional. Mind…

You know, KY is really one of the lower quality lubricants out there. If you’re using the jelly, it really isn’t going to help much, but even their liquid lubes aren’t as good as a lot of others in my opinion. An excellent lubricant is not only as good as “natural” lubricant, sometimes it’s even…

It’s very typical for condom use to contribute to longer lasting erections. Because they do reduce sensation somewhat – especially if you’re not putting a little lube inside, or using the thinnest condoms – and because the ring at the bottom of a condom also constricts the base of the penis, that…

Before I say anything else, just know that you get to feel whatever you feel, and that there isn’t anything wrong with either not feeling ready for – or just plain old not wanting – any given sexual activity. Anything I say from here on out is not intended to influence you to make any one choice…

Unless you’re masturbating with something that isn’t sanitary – such as a toy or object that can’t really be sanitized, or with unwashed hands – masturbation can’t cause disease or infection, just like you, say, putting your fingers in your mouth isn’t going to cause disease or infection unless…

It seems to me that we have four likely possibilities here when it comes to the pro-domme websites. 1) Your boyfriend is simply curious about and/or turned on by BDSM. Pro-domme sites are often free, and tend to have photos as well as information about BDSM. Some even have some bonafide, all-out…

Know what? While alcohol can reduce a person’s inhibitions, another thing it often does reduce how aroused – how turned on – a person can get. It also tends to inhibit orgasm, as well as vaginal lubrication. And that’s just the minor stuff. Date rape is far more common when alcohol is involved…

Before the two of you do anything sexual, I’d say it’s REALLY important that you work out the issue of him seeing sex as a way for you to prove your love. It’s not. Take a look at the bare basics from our Sex Readiness Checklist: If either of you wants to do it because you feel you must or should…

(Eoin’s questions continued…) 1) Abstinence-until-marriage is not superior (this will also come up later with respect to “the parents” and other concerns with my girlfriend); is it such a big deal if I have sex with my girlfriend tomorrow, in a couple months, or several years from now, including…