What’s sex? What’s sexuality? How do people experience and actively express their sexualities, by themselves, with partners or both? How can we take part in sex in ways that are wanted and consensual, physically and emotionally safe and enjoyable for everyone? How do you figure out what you like? How can you communicate about sex? How do you deal with feelings like fear, shame, anxiety, dysphoria and other body image issues? How do you create the kind of sexual life you want? You’ll find the answers to all these and more here.
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Bea
I have been taking celexa for my anxiety disorder for a few months now. I feel like my desire for sex is basically gone since. Before, I would self-gratify sometimes when I did feel desire, but now I...
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Did pills make me ace?
- s.e. smith
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Breathe: Risks, Realities, and Safer Alternatives to Choking and Breath Play
- Heather Corinna
- Giselle Woodley
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- Heather Corinna
I hear people talking about foreplay and pretend like I know what it is, but I have never really understood. Heather Corinna answers this question about foreplay.
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- Heather Corinna
It’s not bad at ALL to have laughter be part of your sex life: it’s ideal. Laughter is an expression of joy, after all, and ideally, sex should be an expression of joy, too. Nervous laughter is also okay: sex with a partner can make us feel anxious, nervous, or highly excited and it’s normal for…
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- Heather Corinna
Fantastic question! It’s so important for people to remember that usually when we’re looking to engage in activities of any kind where there are some risks of negative or unwanted outcomes, it’s usually because we also want to take risks of discovering or getting some positive or wanted outcomes. If…
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- Heather Corinna
Travis, it sounds like you do already seem to have a pretty good idea of what her concerns are, and it sounds like you’re doing a great job in trying to be sure that whatever you do is something you both can feel good about. In other words, I think you need my help less than you probably think that…
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- Susie Tang
Your girlfriend is being VERY sensible, whether you may happen to believe it or not. People with vaginas have a LOT at stake when they become sexually active. They are more prone to infections than people with penises. And yes, they can get pregnant, which is a very taxing process for her body…
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- Susie Tang
It feels good. The species would have a little trouble propagating if we didn’t enjoy mating. By nature, sexual pleasure is the incentive that encourages us to make more of ourselves. That’s quite good for the species – so much so that I think humans may have done too good a job of it. But…
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- Sarah Riley
You’ll probably be surprised to know that this is a pretty common question with an answer that may be unexpected based on what we’ve been taught about how things “should” go. The first thing you really need to understand when you’re thinking about this is that the vaginal canal itself is not…
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- Heather Corinna
Readiness for sex isn’t something that only happens once, or happens once at a certain age. It can be normal at any age, in any situation, for any person not to feel ready for any kind of sex with a partner. When we’re first ready is going to vary a lot from person to person, based on our life…
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- Sarah Riley
A couple of years ago, I learned to knit and I got really really interested in knitting. Anytime I was sitting still (and sometimes when I was moving) I was knitting. But then, after a while, I sorta stopped getting that urge to knit everytime I sat still. It wasn’t that I didn’t enjoy knitting. It…
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- Heather Corinna
When someone asks me a sex readiness question, one of the big things I look for is that the onset of sex in a relationship is about more than one person mostly or solely initiating. In other words, I hear you telling me that he says you can stop if you want to, and that tells me he’s probably the…
