Sex & Sexuality

You can – and should, in my book – talk about this with him in advance if you have this concern. Neither men nor women lack the ability to be sure, when having any kind of sex with a partner, that we are paying just as much attention to them and what they want as we are to ourselves and what we…

Here’s a quick roundup for you. Oral sex is sexual activity between partners in which someone’s genitals – penis, testicles, vulva (vagina, clitoris, labia) or anus – are being stimulated by someone else’s mouth, lips or tongue. Names for some common oral sex activities are cunnilingus – giving a…

Hi there, Depending how long this has been going on for, I think you both need to give yourselves a break. You may have other stressors going on in your life, and now your sex life isn’t working out the way it used to … This is a lot of pressure. And, unfortuneatly, the more you focus on how great…

(Minny’s question continued) Still, I seem to be the odd one out and I find it distressing. I broached the subject with him recently, merely suggesting that I hadn’t actively enjoyed the way we’d had sex (not even that I disliked it) and he’d got very worried and hurt and said that I should have…

The problem here isn’t your body, nor that fact that most women are just not going to orgasm from intercourse alone. The problem is, as you stated, the fact that your partner seems only interested in an activity which results in his own orgasm and his pleasure. That’s the big problem. That’s what…

First things first: really, partnered sex doesn’t make anyone more mature or grown-up, and it’s not necessarily a stepping-stone to greater maturity or “real” adulthood. Driving a car to school instead of a bike doesn’t make someone more mature: it could just mean one person is wealthier than…

Some folks have the idea – usually before they have any or some kinds of sex with a partner, or when the only kinds of sex they’ve had have been when one or both partners either feel uncertain, not ready or just aren’t all that excited and aroused – that you can divide any kind of sex with…

While the experience was probably different and new to you, that doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s a weird experience. Female ejaculation (which is also called squirting, since not every person with a vulva is female) is actually a normal sexual response, though it’s not as common a response. So…

I’m going to break your question down some so we can be sure to touch on everything here. First, let’s talk a bit about readiness. Readiness for any type of sex happens for people at different ages, different points in the relationship, and even in some relationships and not others. One person may…

No. No kind of sex can change the shape or size of your body (sparing something temporary and small, like erections or clitoral swelling because of being aroused). If you become pregnant due to any given kind of sex you can have shape or size changes, but that’s about it. To find out about what…