Sex & Sexuality

Well, it can be a big deal, and it is for most people. One thing that is important to understand is that NONE of us – not you at 13, not me at 37 – are ever ready and interested in having any kind of sex in the way you’re describing when who the other person involved isn’t known to us. I mean…

In some ways, my answer to this one are going to be similar to an answer I gave earlier today, to a guy asking a very similar question here. Ultimately, this all really depends on the why of his reticence. Has he had any previous experience with another partner with cunnilingus? If so, I’d suggest…

You know, even if it DID or does have to do with feces and the scent of feces it’d not be anything to be ashamed of. Really, your friend is being a dope. If we know anything about human sexuality, we know that what’s most normal is difference and variance, and that it’s exceptionally difficult to be…

Sounds like you’re in a difficult spot, but it also sounds like you’re in a really good headspace to work it out, so let’s see what we can do. Some of why your partner is okay with intercourse may indeed be because it’s enjoyable for her, though it sounds like so far it hasn’t been very enjoyable…

1. First and foremost, understand that terms like “clitoral orgasm” and “vaginal orgasm” aren’t actually sensible, and are also really outdated. Orgasm happens primarily in the nervous system, as well as the cardiovascular system. We feel its effects genitally, and it can be – and often is –…

You know, if you’ve little to no interest or feelings of strong desire for the physical and sexual aspects of sex, you aren’t as likely to reap big positive emotional benefits, either. For certain, partnered sex can and often does provide emotional intimacy for people, but when the only part one…

It often takes a while for any new partner – especially when both partners are also new to sex in general – to get the hang of what works for a given partner with any given sexual activity. So, one thing to know is that it’s normal for things to just take time. But time alone won’t tend to that…

Hey Dan: thanks for the props. :) ED drugs really aren’t intended for younger men, nor for the occasional problem with ED. Rather, they’re intended for a very persistent and ongoing problem, over time, and for older men who have ED for physical reasons due to aging or another medical condition (like…

Most things that you find around the house are not suitable for use as lubricant (if you have a vulva). They are simply not formulated for internal use and can easily lead to irritation and infection! So if you do not like KY, there are plenty of other brands of lube that you can buy at your grocery…

As I’m sure you’ve discovered, porn rarely answers one’s questions about sex in a very thorough fashion. A big part of that is probably because porn is fiction and fantasy portrayed in a way that will (supposedly) appeal to the audience. In real life, people don’t have the (dubious) “benefit” of…