Sex & Sexuality

It feels good. The species would have a little trouble propagating if we didn’t enjoy mating. By nature, sexual pleasure is the incentive that encourages us to make more of ourselves. That’s quite good for the species – so much so that I think humans may have done too good a job of it. But…

You’ll probably be surprised to know that this is a pretty common question with an answer that may be unexpected based on what we’ve been taught about how things “should” go. The first thing you really need to understand when you’re thinking about this is that the vaginal canal itself is not…

Readiness for sex isn’t something that only happens once, or happens once at a certain age. It can be normal at any age, in any situation, for any person not to feel ready for any kind of sex with a partner. When we’re first ready is going to vary a lot from person to person, based on our life…

A couple of years ago, I learned to knit and I got really really interested in knitting. Anytime I was sitting still (and sometimes when I was moving) I was knitting. But then, after a while, I sorta stopped getting that urge to knit everytime I sat still. It wasn’t that I didn’t enjoy knitting. It…

When someone asks me a sex readiness question, one of the big things I look for is that the onset of sex in a relationship is about more than one person mostly or solely initiating. In other words, I hear you telling me that he says you can stop if you want to, and that tells me he’s probably the…

We get a LOT of questions like this, every single day, and have for as long as we’ve been online. Here are just a few more recent ones: I have been with my boyfriend for the last three years, and just last May we had sex for the first time. I was a virgin, he was not. We have had sex on a few…

Not having sex shouldn’t cause anyone to have a nervous breakdown. And if you feel like your mental health hinges on being sexually active with a partner, that’s not a good thing – or healthy for you or a relationship – and something you’d want to address with a mental health professional. Mind…

You know, KY is really one of the lower quality lubricants out there. If you’re using the jelly, it really isn’t going to help much, but even their liquid lubes aren’t as good as a lot of others in my opinion. An excellent lubricant is not only as good as “natural” lubricant, sometimes it’s even…

It’s very typical for condom use to contribute to longer lasting erections. Because they do reduce sensation somewhat – especially if you’re not putting a little lube inside, or using the thinnest condoms – and because the ring at the bottom of a condom also constricts the base of the penis, that…

Before I say anything else, just know that you get to feel whatever you feel, and that there isn’t anything wrong with either not feeling ready for – or just plain old not wanting – any given sexual activity. Anything I say from here on out is not intended to influence you to make any one choice…