What’s sex? What’s sexuality? How do people experience and actively express their sexualities, by themselves, with partners or both? How can we take part in sex in ways that are wanted and consensual, physically and emotionally safe and enjoyable for everyone? How do you figure out what you like? How can you communicate about sex? How do you deal with feelings like fear, shame, anxiety, dysphoria and other body image issues? How do you create the kind of sexual life you want? You’ll find the answers to all these and more here.
Sex & Sexuality
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Breathe: Risks, Realities, and Safer Alternatives to Choking and Breath Play
- Heather Corinna
- Giselle Woodley
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- Jenna Gaarde
I just want to start off by saying that you seem to be a self-aware and secure person in your sexuality, from the limited information that you included. Many people who are concerned with their lack of sexual experience have feelings of insecurity. That insecurity is more often what tends to be the…
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- Jenna Gaarde
Your question isn’t silly. Privacy around any kind of sex is a big concern for many people, whether they live with parents, housemates or partners. Many people feel that masturbation is a very private thing, and don’t necessarily want to shout it out to their parents that they are going to go…
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- Heather Corinna
The good news is our hormones don’t control us. They can’t override what choices we actually want to make, including when we’re in our teens. I know, that might stand counter to a lot of what you hear about RAGING! TEENAGE! HORMONES! Super-powered chemicals that aspire to, if not world domination…
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- Jenna Gaarde
Many of us have been there before: feeling stuck in our sexual relationships and wanting to try new things, while feeling unable to communicate that, or nervous about communicating that, to our partner. Fortunately there are some conversation tips that might help you have the type of sex that you…
Advice
- Robin Mandell
Whenever there are strong fears about possible consequences of any given action, it’s a good idea to ask whether everyone is ready for the act or behaviour that could lead to these consequences. Reading your question, I’m left with a lot more questions. Have you and your boyfriend ever met before…
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Figuring out who you are as a sexual being, and what your sexual experiences mean to you, in a world full of double standards and outdated definitions can be quite confusing. Here’s my story of “losing my virginity” and finding my identity when it comes to sex.
Advice
- Robin Mandell
First and foremost, no matter what we call it, if masturbation (or any other activity, for that matter) feels pleasurable, that’s the most important thing. Regardless of the names we give things to put them in categories, our bodies are so unique in the way they work that these tidy little…
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- Jenna Gaarde
First things first: issues or difficulties with orgasm are extremely common, so you are definitely not “weird”. In fact many teens, young adults, and older folks alike have never experienced orgasm, so that’s great that you have found a position that brings you pleasure. People have orgasms in…
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- Jacob Mirzaian
Hi feministconundrums, Genital sensitivity – and sometimes sensitivity of some other body parts, too – is common for many people after orgasm. The length of time after an orgasm that it can or does last varies from person to person, experience to experience and it can often vary with age too. It…
Advice
- Heather Corinna
When it comes to sex with and for only yourself – masturbation – it should be just like sex with a partner when it comes to if you do it or not. If it’s something you want to do and feel comfortable doing, then you can choose to do it. If it’s not something you want or don’t feel comfortable with…
