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Without more information than that, it’s hard for me to know what’s been part of your sexual⁠ (sexual: About or relating in some way to sex or sexuality.) activity. For instance, if by sexually active⁠ (sexually active: Someone who has had or is currently having some kind of genital sex with a partner or partners.) , you just mean with partners – for any activity – then I’d suggest going back to your own drawing board, with your own two hands, and finding out⁠ (out: Short for ‘out of the closet’. When someone’s LGBTQ+ identity is known to other people.) about what you like most and least, and what is most likely to get you there with masturbation.

Often, masturbation is the best place to start – and continue! – when it comes to exploring sex⁠ (sex: Different things people choose to do to actively express or enact sexuality and sexual feelings; often this involves genitals, but not always. ) and our own pleasure, because when we don’t have to account for a partner⁠ (partner: In a sexual context, a person with whom someone is having some kind of sex. The term “partner” can be used for all kinds of relationships, not just serious ones. “Partner” can also mean the person someone is with in a romantic or familial partnership.) , we’re free to explore a lot more, and on our own schedule. So, find out some of the things you like – how and where you like to be touched, what turns you on most, what kinds of touch, pressure and speed to your genitals⁠ (genitals: Body parts that are generally, culturally, scientifically or personally considered to be external sexual or reproductive organs.) and other areas do the trick for you – by yourself, and then you can come to partnered sex with some personal preferences you can communicate to your partner to best help him or her find out what works for you, too.

As well, if by “sexually active” you mean vaginal intercourse⁠ (vaginal intercourse: When a penis or sex toy is inserted into and held by the vagina while partners move their bodies as feels good to them for the purpose of either sexual stimulation and/or reproduction.) , and that alone? Well, that all by itself doesn’t ring the bell for a majority of people with vaginas. Intercourse can be satisfying on a lot of levels for a lot of people, but usually, if it’s not paired with other sexual activities (before, during and/or after), like clitoral stimulation with manual sex⁠ (manual sex: Sometimes also called digital sex. Kinds of sex involving the hands and fingers to sexually stimulate the genitals or other parts of the body. Fingering, handjobs or “fisting” (deep manual sex) are some kinds of manual sex.) , or with oral sex⁠ (oral sex: Use of the mouth, lips or tongue for sexual stimulation. Cunnilingus (“going down on”), fellatio (“blowjobs”) and analingus (“rimming”) are some common kinds of oral sex.) , more whole body contact, role play, making out⁠ (making out: A vague term, but often a session of extended activity that includes passionate or deep kissing, some kind of other body contact and may even include other kinds of sex, like manual sex (fingering or handjobs).) – whatever floats your boat – it’s not likely to result in orgasm⁠ (orgasm: An event typically in response to physical or intellectual sexual stimulation, controlled by the involuntary nervous system. ) . Take a lookie here for more words on that issue.

Obviously, too, if your partner isn’t getting that he or she needs do more than intercourse⁠ (intercourse: When people interlock their genitals and move together as feels good to them for the purpose of sexual stimulation and/or reproduction.) with you, then it’s important that you clearly communicate that. Partners talking to each other about what is working for them and isn’t is really key to everyone involved having sex that’s satisfying for both.

Lastly, understand that orgasm is a result not just of certain sexual activities, but of being highly and fully aroused throughout the sex you’re having: of the whole process feeling satisfying and great for you. If you’re not really turned on before and during any kind of sex, orgasm almost always just isn’t going to happen.

All of that, and the links included, should give you a start, and you may find these other pieces helpful as well.

• 10 of the Best Things You Can Do for Your Sexual Self • Innies and Outies: The Vagina, Clitoris, Uterus, and More (including some explanation about the whole of the clitoris⁠ (clitoris: A sexual organ both external and internal on the vulva and inside the pelvis of those often assigned female at birth that is similar to the penis, but serves no other known purpose besides providing sexual pleasure.) you might not have known about)