Reproduction

How can or does pregnancy happen, for real? What do you do if and when you think you or a partner might be pregnant? What are some false beliefs or fears about reproduction that might be stressing you out for no good reason? 

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  • Sarah Riley

Pre-ejaculate can contain sperm, and it’s something that (especially during penetrative activities) usually goes unnoticed by both partners. The vagina is a wet environment, so you are not going to be able to feel the addition of some extra fluid. And (no matter what a partner may claim) men…

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  • Heather Corinna

ANY direct genital contact that is unprotected ALWAYS puts you at a potential risk of pregnancy (when your partner has the genitals that could co-create one) and sexually transmitted infections. The vulva is a wet place, and sexual fluids like ejaculate and pre-ejaculate are also just that, fluid…

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  • Heather Corinna

Your boyfriend needs to understand and accept that it’s very unlikely he never pre-ejaculates if he does fully ejaculate, too. In other words, if, at his age, he’s reached the stage of puberty where he can ejaculate, then he also does pre-ejaculate. Pre-ejaculate is how the penis “prepares” itself…

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  • Susie Tang

This is an unusual question, and I’m not sure if you intended to ask this literally, but let’s see… There is no set number – minimum or maximum – of times you can have sex before you get pregnant. A person with the capacity to get pregnant can have sex and get pregnant the first time they do so…

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  • Heather Corinna

No, it is not. Sounds to me like your girlfriend has misunderstood how fertility cycles work. While cycles vary between people who menstruate – which is part of why the “calendar method” isn’t a good one – a vast majority of those people will be most fertile mid-cycle, between around day ten and…

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  • Heather Corinna

When you and a partner have no clothing on, and direct genital-to-genital contact, please understand that it isn’t dry sex anymore. The “dry” in dry sex is pretty critical: it means that sex was had in which there was no chance of any fluid contact or exchange. If you’ve got a naked penis rubbing…

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  • Susie Tang

I was wondering why we were getting this question a lot lately. Then last week, I saw the movie ‘Knocked Up.’ Lo and behold, one of the characters in the movie claims (and exclaims) that a girl can’t get pregnant if she’s on top. ‘Cause of gravity and all that. WRONG! So totally not true!!! Yes…

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  • Susie Tang

No, the penis does not have to go far into the vaginal canal to result in pregnancy. There have been cases where pregnancies resulted without any insertion of a penis into a vaginal canal. All that needs to happen is sperm must get to the ovum (egg). Simply spilling fertile semen on the vulva can be…

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  • Heather Corinna

Yes. Please understand that becoming pregnant isn’t about how long someone lasts, if someone is having sex for the first time, if someone reaches orgasm or not. There is ALWAYS a risk of pregnancy if a man and a woman have vaginal intercourse, and a high risk if during that intercourse the male…

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  • Susie Tang

If sperm went into a vagina and the person with the vagina is not on any form of birth control, then YES, they could get pregnant. Even if they’re on top, and some semen trickles out, chances are just enough sperm cells could make their way up into their reproductive tract to result in a pregnancy…