Relationships

Kasey: before I say anything else, let me just say that I’m very sorry this all went down this way for you. You holding back tears while continuing to give someone oral sex (which disturbs me), your husband having intercourse with someone else and you feeling unable to say anything, your feelings of…

There’s no reason for you to feel guilty or horrible about having the thoughts and concerns that you do. Being exclusive with someone is about making a choice, and a choice that is – ideally – meaningful if and when we make it. If it was rote or easy to make it wouldn’t be meaningful. If…

Oddly enough, I was just pulling up these statistics for something else the other day. Very few people in the world will have but one sexual or romantic partner in the whole of their lifetimes. A census sponsored by the CDC from 1999 to 2002 found that on average, adult men between the ages of 30…

If he’s kissing guys but not you, that might be a sound reason to think about his sexual orientation. But that doesn’t appear to be the case. Our sexual orientation isn’t based on who we do not feel emotional or sexual attraction to, but to who we do have those feelings for. Of course, if we’re not…

What is self harm? How does it – and can it – fit into a loving relationship? Will I ever be comfortable with my scars? One self-injurer speaks her pain and her peace.

There’s no reason why I, or anyone else, should try to talk you into doing a sexual activity you don’t have any interest in doing. Coercing someone into doing something sexual they don’t want to is an abuse, and in many cases, also falls under definitions of rape, and for good reason. What motivates…

Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Smart words from a smart lady, and one who certainly also didn’t fit the beauty ideals nor a lot of people’s ideas about how women should be in her day. Of course it feels nice to have some attention sometimes…

Here’s the kicker: there’s nothing we can do or know which will guarantee that a partner will enjoy something we do. Nothing. One facet of readiness for partnered sex has to do with being able to accept that and be okay with it. Another part is knowing that no matter what we do, there are probably…

There is no one way to do things when it comes to sex which will guarantee that a partner sticks around or does not. There also is not any one way men feel or behave when it comes to sex and relationships, nor any one way women do. Generalizations about these kinds of things are very infrequently…

I see a few issues that need to be addressed here. First things first: giving someone any kind of sex they want any time they want it not only will not keep them from having other sex partners, it is – as you’re experiencing – something that doesn’t create a healthy sexual dynamic or feel very…