A First Polyamory Guide

Polyamory, sometimes called non-monogamy⁠ or open relationships, is a big subject with a lot to talk about, so we'll start at the beginning: with a definition.

You’ll see it defined a lot of ways, but here’s one we like:

Being interested in or pursuing intimate relationships (emotional and/or sexual) with more than one person at the same time, in a consensual, open, informed setting.

Have you ever been super into two people at once, and told you need to pick one? Well, if and when you don't want to, maybe you don't.

Articles in this series

(Mostly) everything (okay, okay, not mostly everything, but a lot) you wanted to know about polyamory.

The start of a relationship can feel very fluid — you may date several people while you get to know them, and might pick up, stop, shift and start relationships at various points. Sometimes you can find yourself in a situation where you aren't entirely sure if you're "officially" dating someone at all, but it sure feels like you might be. As a relationship starts to evolve into something more structured or long-term, you may want to have a deeper conversation about the form you want your relationship to take. For you, that may mean bringing up polyamory — or having your partner bring it up, in which case, this guide is for you too!

Every relationship is different, and when you’re polyamorous, that means that you may have several different relationships going on all at once. One issue to think about is the relationship structure that works for you, and how to make it work with your partners. Remember that this can be in a constant state of evolution, but communication is necessary for changes to take place.