Advice

Lily asks:
I recently came out a lesbian. I have known I was a lesbian for a very long time. I'm not like most teenagers. I really just want to settle down and get married. However, I know I must go through a few long term relationships in order to do that. But, I only want to have sex with one person, my committed, married partner. The thought of having sex with more than one person over my lifetime kind of stresses me out. I want to get married and in order for me to do this, I need to have more than one relationship, but I only want to have sex with one person? I just need some advice.
HIPsunflower asks:
I am a sexual deviant. I am willing to try anything, yet I have not had partners that have taken things to the next level. Just basics: spanking, hair-pulling, dirty talk, choking. I want to express these desires to be bound up, dominated, and exploring my physical boundaries with my partner yet what is inside my head never comes out as erotic as I imagine. What are some examples or ways to approach my partner to get positive results to explore this inner hidden freak?
Mrais Trix asks:
Okay there’s a girl I really REALLY like. Like I’ve written at least an album's worth of songs about her and I can’t stop thinking about her. Well, recently I’ve started to think about having sex with her. The thing is I’ve had sex fantasies before but those were with celebrities, and the thought of wanting to have sex with someone I know freaks me out because I’m only 14. Is this normal/okay to think about having sex with my crush when I’m 14 years old?
john doe asks:
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for over a year. We have had sex maybe three times. The past couple of months, I've been touching her and going down and doing everything to please her. After it's over, I ask her if she will get me and it's either "I'm too tired" or "I don't like doing that." She's never gone down, never even touched me, since we have been together; only when we have had sex. I tried to talk to her about it, but she always gets mad and usually leaves or change the subject.
Confused asks:
I'm a gay trans guy, and there's this one boy, N, who misgenders me constantly. He's bi, and I know it's not intentional--he says sorry after he does it, even though I have to correct him myself. However, he misgenders me literally every time he talks in third person, and it's incredibly annoying and insulting. I want to be friends with him--he's really nice, and we both like theatre and have similar senses of humor--but I'm not sure if I should. In addition to this, he confided in one of my friends that he has a hard time seeing me as a boy.
Lily asks:
I feel like my loneliness is eating me alive. Every time I wake up, I expect someone to be sleeping next to me. However, no one ends up being there and it's rather devastating to me. I am not in the place in my life where I have time for a relationship. Also, I am paranoid that I will never meet anyone and that I will die alone. I'm going off to college in a year, will I meet other people there? I am a lesbian and that only adds to my fear, because I think about how many LGBT people there are in the world and that I will just be gay and single forever? How do I cope with these fears?
Anonymous asks:
I feel that I am not a conservative person, but one thing I can not accept is about hook-up culture: about casual sex and one night stands. I often feel very lonely, because I am afraid I can‘t find the same kind of person like me.But it doesn't mean I don't wanna make friends with other people.) I just feel doubt that I can easily find a similar person who don't have casual sex experience like me to be a lover/soul mate, What should I do to ease my doubts? Thanks.
Anonymous asks:
I'm a 14 year old who was assigned female sex at birth, but recently I've started to feel insecure, angry and depressed about my body. Whenever I get my period I feel super grossed out and uncomfortable, as well as angry and frustrated. I've tried to talk to my mom but I just don't know how to express it to her, and I'm worried that my parents will have a bad reaction. And I really wish I didn't have boobs, they're not big, but they make me feel uncomfortable and I try to wear loose, layered clothes to create the illusion of a flat chest.
confused asks:
It's been a bit since my long-term boyfriend and I (girl) broke up, and I think I'm ready to start dating. The problem is that even though I love sex, I have trouble staying wet enough on my own that penetration doesn't feel uncomfortable. We sometimes used lube, but it was hardly a *sexy* aspect of the sex. We were both 16 when we started dating and each other's first time, so I have no experience outside him. If I want to have a one-night stand or just casual sex with another guy, how can I work lube in or just not need it at all?
May asks:
Hi guys. I don't know if you have addressed this question before so I am asking now. I am a 15 year old girl who masturbates regularly. I know this is perfectly fine and health but that's not the problem. At my school, we receive reletively good sex ed which does mention female masturbation but does not go into detail. Us being weird teens, we chat about "sex stuff" sometimes and there is usually a variety of responses. However, whenever the topic of wanking comes up, all but one of my female friends start to speak about it like it's gross and weird.