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In American society we often grow up with baseball as THE metaphor to describe sex. Let’s deconstruct the baseball model, uncover its many flaws, and take a look at an alternative which is a whole lot better, even if it might make you a little hungry.

When we have any kind of trauma, we don’t tend to heal by blocking it out. Of course, we generally cannot simply “block out” memories by sheer force of will in the first place. But it’s certainly common to wish we could. By all means, you had extremely poor care at the hospital – I hate even…

This is about a recent scare of mine at the dentist or how a misdiagnosis almost cost me hundreds of dollars and unnecessary pain and surgery. However, before I talk about that specific experience, I’d like to share my back story. How I love thee, dentists of the world!?! Let me count the ways.

For starters, congratulations for seeking treatment and starting on your road to recovery. You deserve major recognition for that; it’s not easy but taking those first steps are so important, if hard, and I’m really proud of you! My quick answer to your two questions is that you are definitely not…

Patient Teenagers? A Comparison of the Sexual Behavior of Virginity Pledgers and Matched Nonpledgers, Janet Elise Rosenbaum, PhD, AM; Health Policy PhD Program, Harvard University: Five years after the pledge, 82% of pledgers denied having ever pledged. Pledgers and matched nonpledgers did not differ in premarital sex, sexually transmitted diseases, and anal and oral sex variables. Pledgers had 0.1 fewer past-year partners but did not differ in lifetime sexual partners and age of first sex. Fewer pledgers than matched nonpledgers used birth control and condoms in the past year and birth control at last sex.

Contraception. In many ways, it’s the bane of my existence. Kids are just not part of my plan right now, and as much as I wish it were possible, the technology to shut my ovaries off at will for any length of time has not yet been developed. (Anyone who figures out how to do that will have my eternal gratitude. I might even make them cupcakes, I would be so grateful.) So, seeing as how I’m with a partner of the opposite sex, some sort of pregnancy prevention is required.

Breakups sure can suck. But you can get through them, and come out on the other side okay. Find out what can make that easier, what can make them harder, and some ways to help yourself with so you can deal, heal and get back to the business of being your kickass self.

I asked Hanne about this for you, and this was what she had to say: This is not a religious opinion – I’m by no means qualified to offer psok halacha in your community anyway. What it seems like you are asking is whether or not it is appropriate to offer a blessing to your friend on the occasion of…

I’m so sorry that was your almost-first-time sexual experience. If it’s any consolation, you’re hardly alone: a whole lot of people have had this kind of experience with sex and a parent. Ultimately, I’d say your biggest issue right now is earning your mother’s trust back, not finding a way to have…

(Woah’s question continued) Even though I am on the pill and he washes his hands before hand, he almost has a panic attack every time that he fingers me. Also, every time that I feel the least bit icky and say anything about it he makes me promise him over and over that I’m not pregnant. I think…

It’s really hard to say when your periods might develop a discernible pattern. In general, we would probably expect to see that happen within the first 3-5 years of menstruation. However, that is a very general guideline because there are a lot of other factors that could be at work as well. Your…

Low libido is a relatively common side effect of some birth control pills more than others. The primary mechanism that makes oral contraceptives effective in preventing pregnancy is that they prevent ovulation from happening by suppressing the release of hormone stimulating substances called…

I am glad to hear that you and your boyfriend are happy together. Finding a great partner can be a rare and wonderful occurrence, regardless of age! I have been mulling over your question for a couple of days and have a few thoughts to share. I will start by saying that I support your relationship…

Hey Ramon, For starters, I hope your boyfriend’s eye is looking and feeling better. Chances are that you are getting this reply a few days after first posting. If his eye still seems swollen and especially if it appears to be getting worse, I would recommend going to the doctor to get it checked out…

Maya, I think it’s so important to try not to get hung up on the idea that what other people are doing (or not) sexually has any relevance to what we do or don’t do. I completely get wanting to have some idea of where we’re at with where others are at, but with something as personal and diverse as…

While getting an erection when it’s not necessarily wanted is not something you hope will happen, I can assure you that it’s completely normal. What you’re describing here is something referred to as reflex erection. Young people with penises have reflex erections during any time of the day or night…

What are the early symptoms of pregnancy and when do they start to happen? Why are symptoms not the smartest way to tell if you’re pregnant, and how CAN you tell if you are? If you’re losing your mind during a pregnancy scare, and finding symptoms everywhere you look, here’s some on-target information and a dose of comfort to help you separate the real deal from the hype.

Yesterday, after working my second job at the clinic, I was effectively kidnapped by my co-worker Gigi and her ten-year-old daughter Sophia, whom I adore. She calls herself Big Sophia around me, my pug (scroll down this page for a visual) being Little Sofia. We wound up driving from their place to…

A lot of people are worried, anxious or nervous about sex, whether they are 15, 24 or 44. It’s not just you, really. Given how many people in the world have conflicting feelings about sex and sexuality, I’d disagree that the concerns you’re having are not normal at your age or any other. You say a…

I think it might help if you made some adjustments to the way you think about intercourse and sex as a whole. You use the word penetration, and talk about what you’re doing as stabbing or a kind of invasion. I also hear you saying that sex is something you are doing to your partner or on your…

RespectIsSexy’s question continued We share a room, and often if I walk in unannounced I’ll find her seemingly lying on the bed doing absolutely nothing, looking irritatedly at me - the exact position I can be found in if interrupted masturbating. In light of this, I really think it’s necessary that…

If you are not looking to become pregnant, then chances are good you have just been very lucky so far. Generally, in one year of sex without any method of birth control, around 80 - 90% of young women will become pregnant. So, for now, it seems you’ve been that 10 - 20% of women who haven’t… so…

Yes, there are health risks associated with ingesting or being exposed to menses, because this is both fluid sharing and also blood sharing, even though menses is more than just blood. Overall, what you’re looking at are the risks associated with unprotected – without a latex barrier like a condom…

Tea Sefer, 16, guffawed in disbelief at the time her teacher asked their sex ed class to name seven different definitions for abstinence. “I’m like, I can’t come up with seven different ways,” said Sefer, a student at Lincoln Park High School. Scott Jaburek, 17, studying at Walter Payton High School…

Let’s first briefly review the state of things in the states when it comes to minors and access to abortion, since you’re hardly the only person who has ever asked about this. Worldwide access would be a way bigger piece, but sound information on global access can be found in this bibilography. (If…