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Nimpup’s question continues: I know I could go down there and check but, I get too turned on when I see inside it and I just to want to have sex right then and there, so it’s very hard for me to look for her. We’ve tried burning incense that is supposed to help stimulate us but it seems to only…

It’s obviously important if you’re here for information that you know what we mean when we say “sex,” so we thought we’d make it clear.

Count me in as one more voice in the choir saying that I highly doubt G-d is punishing you for having sex outside marriage by somehow making you not want sex within it, or making your sex life in a marriage unhappy. My own spiritual belief system doesn’t involve a god, but I did more than my fair…

Teenagerhood should be a time of dreams and expansion. We should be allowed to open our inner selves up and absorb as much light and life as we possibly can. We should be, but other people are often too often invested in what they think we should be to let us be what we are.

It’s not actually accurate to suggest most cis women–or other people who have vaginas– have trouble reaching orgasm. A majority of people with vaginas do have trouble reaching orgasm through vaginal intercourse and simply cannot orgasm that way. It’s also true that many people with vaginas have…

Making out with an ex whom you still have feelings for isn’t really an issue of being right or wrong morally: I’d say it’s more about being honest with yourself and doing what’s right for you. Right now this arrangement doesn’t seem to be a good match for your needs and wants. Casual sex generally…

I wish that I could give you one simple, short and objective answer for what love is, but unfortunately, I can’t. That’s a question people have been asking for probably as long as there have been people, and as of yet, while there have been millions of answers, I don’t think anyone has arrived at…

Jack, Thanks for sending in your question! Although you’ve asked about the lifespan of sperm outside your body (and anyone else’s), I would like to spend a little time addressing your fear of touching your sperm, too. That’s a really important concern, because I want you to be able to be happy and…

As we go through childhood and our teens, our boundaries tend to change. It’s typical for young people growing up to want increasing privacy and also to have an expanding personal space bubble: to want your family and other people close to you to support you feeling like your body is absolutely your…

Y’all need to remember that when anyone is doing the things that can cause pregnancy, pregnancy is always a possibility. In other words: are you having direct genital-to-genital contact with someone who has a different kind of reproductive system than you do? If so, pregnancy is possible. How…

This is one of a long line of common phrases in sex education and sexuality messaging people, including people I think of us allies, use that I deeply dislike, like “preventing teen pregnancy.” Let me explain why.

That question probably either sounds like a really important one or a really stupid one, depending on your view. But I want the answer regardless, and am seriously tired of waiting for it. As an organization that provides information on all methods of contraception and other aspects of sexual…

Talk, images & representations of men and sex are EVERYWHERE in culture and society. One recurring and dominant theme in our understanding of male sexual behaviour is the idea of the male “need” for sex. The common narrative for this concept of men’s needs is one based on some sort of biological imperative, be that a study about some fundamental wiring in a male brain (or genitals) that requires men to regularly engage in sexual intercourse to maintain physical well-being, intimate relationships and a healthy sense of self. Or perhaps it is some essential part of the male brain, left over from our ancient forefathers - for whom constant procreation ensured the survival of the familial line, if not the entire species. What strikes me again and again is the frequency with which cultural understandings of sexuality are reinforced and legitimised through this language of science.

Congratulations on starting college and on your great new relationship with a guy who means a lot and treats you well! This is an exciting time in many ways, and I’m glad to hear that you’re interested in waiting on getting sexual until you both feel ready for it. It sounds like you just started…

As anyone who works in sex education or sexuality can tell you, when it comes to the questions people ask us, variations on the theme of “Am I normal?” reign supreme. I just spent a half hour going through our advice question queue, doing a search on each page for the word “normal.” At the moment…

Your boyfriend sounds awesome. And how quickly he ejaculates right now really doesn’t have to present any problems if neither of you treat it like a problem. Just so you know, a lot of sex educators and therapists have big problems with the term and concept of “premature ejaculation” (PE) as it’s…

prince_12’s question continued Really I am very ignorant that this is how the girl masturbate. I chatted with several guys two days ago, and now i am very worried about my body. Until this moment, I still feel jelly like and watery from down inside for no reason. I am not chatting for two days and I…

There aren’t any “shoulds” here. Not all people with vaginas bleed with first-time intercourse or other kinds of vaginal entry: in fact, most don’t. Why some people do – and for how long they do – and some don’t also varies. As to how many people with vaginas do and don’t bleed after first…

This morning I had class at 7:45 am, which is brutal since A) I live way off campus which means that I have to get up more than 15 minutes before I need to be there, and B) I left campus last night around 10 pm. Also, I had not had any coffee (devastating, in my case), so as a result, during the break I ran over to the nearest cafe to grab some. While I was in line, a (white) person that I had never before seen in my life walked up to me and asked me if I was Chinese.

Brook is the only national voluntary sector provider of free and confidential sexual health advice and services specifically for young people under 25. Brook is a registered charity, and has 40 years’ experience of providing professional advice through specially trained doctors, nurses, counsellors…

(Porte’s question continued) I’m ashamed of my body. I’m scared of showing him. All my life I’ve been made fun of for being ‘fat’ my whole life basically. I don’t care what people say about me anymore (usually) and I like myself. Kinda. I don’t think of myself as like…this huge chick who stuffs…

It’s absolutely normal to feel unsafe with someone who has demonstrated that you are not safe with them. After all, if I told you I didn’t feel safe having someone over for dinner who mugged me last week, you’d hardly be surprised. It’s also absolutely normal not to feel sexual with someone who hasn…

Looking for an alternative to tampons or pads? A user asks about menstrual cups, and we give her – and you – the scoop.

Usually sexual anatomy is taught through the lens of reproduction, so it’s only about penises and vaginas, testes and uteri. Seen through the lens of of pleasure, sexual anatomy looks different.

I know it’s only so much consolation to you right now, but the older I get, the more I notice how much easier having a positive body image becomes. I know that’s clearly not the case for all older women: after all, plenty of women my age and older are getting sliced, diced and Botoxed to within an…