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Dr. Karen Rayne has spent a decade supporting parents and young adults with well-researched, thoughtful discussion of sex and sexuality.

Ah yes, the unexpected period gambit. Also known as the “I am not wearing white shorts until I hit menopause” phenomenon. I know it well, as do most people who menstruate. The image of the spreading, red stain on your pants (inevitably in front of the people who pick on you and/or the person you’re…

The tradition of “men pursue, women wait” is still culturally prevalent, and a lot of families (yours included) teach their children that men should be the ones doing the asking when it comes to romance. This notion is problematic for a number of reasons. It reinforces not-so-great ideas about how…

If by sex, you mean intercourse, you probably can’t. Even if you could, you or your partner probably wouldn’t enjoy it: the idea intercourse is something people do – or even can do, or would enjoy if they could – for an hour or two just doesn’t square with reality. A lot of people have unrealistic…

Oof, this is a tough spot, and I’m sorry you’ve found yourself in it. I want to start by saying that your instincts, and what you’ve been hearing, are spot on. When you sense that someone you care about is being isolated by a partner, especially a partner with a history of harassment and assault, it…

What can you do to stay connected without becoming the main component of your teen’s social life, and how do you support teens going through breakups?

As you have probably guessed from the title, I have some thoughts about what the source of the issue is, and boy howdy is it not you. Let’s look at an abridged version of events from an outside perspective, because when you’re in a relationship, with all the feelings that involves, it can be hard to…

First off, I want to say that it takes an incredible amount of strength to have gone through (and continue to go through) what you have and survive. You’ve managed to grown and thrive in spite of other people doing awful things to you. That’s not nothing. And that strength is going to come in handy…

The safer sex drawer normalizes safer sex, and ensures young people in your life have access to supplies they need.

Parents and adults are often quick to dismiss teen media, even when they haven’t personally read or viewed it. That offhand dismissal undermines young people.

First off, let’s get one thing very clear: having sex or masturbating does not cause any changes to your body. (We have written about this before, and will likely have to keep reiterating it until I retire/the internet explodes/the sun goes out and all life on earth is destroyed.) There is no test…

Gender stereotyping is not just everybody’s problem, it’s a problem for everybody, and that includes for men.

Some of our favorite resources for parents to help them do their best with sex, gender, consent and sexuality in their parenting.

If you take nothing else away from Scarleteen Confidential, we feel these five things are the real guiding principles when it comes to parenting well.

Young people sometimes feel uncomfortable talking with parents and guardians about contraception.

In this series we pass on our insight including what we observe and learn from working with young people to parents, guardians and other supportive adults.

Our societies are chock-full of norms and ideals of beauty that shape how we feel about our bodies, and we all run up against them eventually.

Hi Freckle Face, There are a couple of things in your question that I want to address. The first is that you are, correctly, noticing that your friends are applying a double standard when it comes to talking about sex with you. Now, to be clear, people have different levels of comfort around…

Before I say anything else (and I’ve got a lot, so go on and put your feet up: this is big stuff, so you deserve big responses), I want to make a couple things super-clear. One: you get to have whatever kind of mutually consensual sexual life it turns out feels right for you, even if that turned out…

What do you do when you don’t like your kid’s new partner?

Want high quality condoms, lubricants and other safer sex supplies? You can now find them right here at Scarleteen, in partnership with the awesome folks at Lucky Bloke!

Worried a medication might interact/interfere with your hormonal contraceptive, or vice versa? Here’s a rundown of the most common culprits in birth control interference.

There are a couple of things that I want to talk about here. Obviously, the fact that you’re not enjoying sex with your current partner is the big one, but I also want to address what sounds, from what you’ve written, like an assumption about what it means to be dominant or submissive, and a…

Izzybelle’s question continued: A few years ago, I met a guy and we became really close friends. After a year, we stopped being friends because I felt (my parents also felt this way) that he didn’t care about me; he never texted me (literally never) and he never wanted to hang out, but I was blind…