sex

There’s no “cherry” that needs popping in your vagina. Seriously. And virginity is a cultural idea or concept: it’s not a physical state of anything. In other words, the bodies of “virgins” and the bodies of “non-virgins” are often impossible to tell the difference between. Sometimes that term…

I’m afraid you’re not going to like my answer very much. Really? You don’t want to be having intercourse – or even outercourse, if it isn’t comfortable and protected – when you’re not fully over a yeast infection (as your treatment will mention in the instructions). For starters, yeast infections…

Well, a little bit higher than her vagina is her clitoris: not only is that not a strange idea, it’d be much more likely to result in greater pleasure for her, or any other person with a vagina, than licking just the vaginal opening would. :) But maybe you mean higher than her vulva? Such as…

If he wants to wait until marriage and you don’t or feel you can’t, then this isn’t the person for you to be pursuing a sexual relationship with, because you two very obviously have strongly conflicting wants and needs. Talking to him isn’t likely to net the results you want, either – if he’s solid…

It’s a pretty mixed message to tell someone they’re perfect, then tell them that you’re only interested in engaging in a certain sexual activity with them if they look a certain way per your liking (shaved, unshaved, what have you). Sex with partners shouldn’t have entry requirements based on what a…

You know, this happens a lot. That, after a person becomes sexually active, or does a given new sexual thing, they’ll notice what appear to be changes with their body. But when it all gets sorted out, it pretty much always turns out that there wasn’t anything different. In other words, that your…

That’s pretty normal as partners get more comfortable having sex together, so you should let him know that doesn’t mean anything is wrong. But if he’s not satisfied with that, the trick generally is just to mix it up: to mix in way more activities than intercourse, and to focus on his whole body…

I’m going to suggest you look at reciprocity in sex – the idea that one person gives something, so the other should get something of equal value back – in a different way than you might be used to. (Excerpted and adapted from S.E.X., the Scarleteen book.)

You know, what “sex” even IS differs for everyone. There are a world of sexual activities out there – oral sex, manual sex, intercourse, anal play, role play, frottage, the works – and how each person does them isn’t only different from person to person, but from partnership to partnership, and…

Having sex with someone else is really intimate, and we’re all vulnerable in that space, and double for both when we have strong feelings for the person we’re with. So, in order to make our own best choices – including in terms of our emotional safety – we need to understand that. Does this person…