sex

That’s pretty normal as partners get more comfortable having sex together, so you should let him know that doesn’t mean anything is wrong. But if he’s not satisfied with that, the trick generally is just to mix it up: to mix in way more activities than intercourse, and to focus on his whole body…

I’m going to suggest you look at reciprocity in sex—the idea that one person gives something so the other should get something of equal value—in a different way.

You know, what “sex” even IS differs for everyone. There are a world of sexual activities out there – oral sex, manual sex, intercourse, anal play, role play, frottage, the works – and how each person does them isn’t only different from person to person, but from partnership to partnership, and…

Having sex with someone else is really intimate, and we’re all vulnerable in that space, and double for both when we have strong feelings for the person we’re with. So, in order to make our own best choices – including in terms of our emotional safety – we need to understand that. Does this person…

Any way you do it, however you define it. In other words, what “sex” even IS varies pretty widely from person-to-person and day-to-day, and can be or include ANY number of sexual activities. Intercourse is sex, but so is oral sex, anal sex, manual sex, making out, frottage, role play, cybersex…

You know, “slut” is both a really subjective and often a really derogatory term. A lot of people use it out of spite, because they’re afraid of sexuality (or, more accurately, women’s or queer sexuality), and because they’re afraid of people who enjoy it, and on some level, perhaps, secretly jealous…

You probably know what abstinence-only sex education is, and you may also understand what comprehensive sex education is. But we feel we take it one step further around here, and aim to provide feminist comprehensive sex education, for women, men and everyone in between. So, what’s that all about?

I don’t know if you are Orthodox or not, but if you are, perhaps you’ve heard of a term called “taharat hamispocheh” (rough transliteration). These are the laws (halacha) of family purity, or so they’re called. They cover life situations involving sexuality and sexual activity.

The Biblical sin of Sodom wasn’t homosexuality or anal sex – it was rape, greediness and poor hospitality, and the legal basis of sodomy is not about homosexuality, but about oral and anal sex, and often about homophobia.

There are a number of falsehoods about ED floating around from schoolyards to saloons; get the facts here.