Sexual Identity

Welcome to the wonderful world of being a bisexual queer and feeling weird about it! This often means spending our lives moving in and out of environments that are supportive and unsupportive to varying degrees and coming into contact with stereotypes which other people hold in their minds, our own…

First off, it’s great that you’ve found a sexual orientation that you identify strongly with! Regardless of if and when you talk about this with anyone else, it’s an exciting and positive thing to understand and accept about yourself, so: congratulations! When contemplating coming out, remember that…

Maggie’s question continued: I’m struggling with the fact that when I talk about being bisexual I mean that I could happily be in a committed relationship or desire to have sex with someone of any gender. I sometimes find that when people (as a way of trying to be supportive, which I am grateful for…

Being bisexual entails a very specific struggle that isn’t talked about enough: being believed.

Identity can be such an obnoxious creature sometimes. Just when you think you’ve got it all sorted out, some new evidence pops up and you have to rethink things. And I don’t need to tell you how frustrating that shift can be, because you’re in the middle of it. It can be doubly trying if you’ve…

Unchained’s question continued: Around the beginning of this year, I was walking to the bus stop after college and when I was waiting for the traffic lights to give me pass for some odd reason I remembered the article about asexuality I had read on the newspaper’s magazine… and then I remembered…

To start off with, I can assure you that you’re not the first person to be in this situation. So you don’t have to feel as though you’re the only straight person traveling in queer circles who’s ever felt uncomfortable with the way straightness is discussed. And believe me when I say the advice I’m…

Hi, bifabulous! Congrats on becoming more aware of your own sexuality! Sadly, you’re right: some people do harbor misconceptions and sexist notions about bisexual women. Racism and sexism added to the mix make the issue even thornier; as you said, there are a lot of harmful stereotypes about Asian…

When everyone seems to be so preoccupied with labels, it’s hard to really explain to someone that you’re a ‘genderqueer-gendernonconforming-demisexual-‘gay’-transman’ and not have them look at you funny.

Everyone has a sexual orientation and a sexual identity. Here are some basics and not-so-basics about what orientation is, some of the ways we can talk about it, how to figure yours out, and finding support.