Relationships

Before I say anything else (and I’ve got a lot, so go on and put your feet up: this is big stuff, so you deserve big responses), I want to make a couple things super-clear. One: you get to have whatever kind of mutually consensual sexual life it turns out feels right for you, even if that turned out…

How do you navigate a relationship when one or both partners are dealing with pain?

This is one of those situations that I think is telling you it’s time to start claiming – and insisting upon – your independence. I kept the title you chose for this because it’s clear you know what the problem is: control. The solution is about control, too: you taking control of your own life…

Okay, first things first. If the bullying of him and you is at this level, then it’s time to call in the administration at the school and let them know what’s happening. If there’s a teacher that you or he trusts, they might be able to help you with the process. But this is one of those times where…

Before I say anything else, I want to address about those feelings of shame and inadequacy you had – from the sounds of it, are still having – when your partner told you his feelings about your sex life. Someone feeling like their sexual life or interactions with someone else aren’t satisfying, or…

I am really glad to hear that you have a close relationship with your mom. That can be tricky to maintain throughout the teen years, but for many people having a close relationship with parents is important, so it is awesome that you two seem to be doing great on that front. A big part of the reason…

Feel like being able to clearly set boundaries, stick to them, and assert yourself must require superpowers? Nope! You’ve already got all the goods: here’s how to develop and use them!

Casual sex is one of those things that, so far as we know from the study of people and sex in history, people have always done. Given that for most of human history, basic survival was seriously tough, people’s lives and interactions often were more brief than either are now, and many people or…

The charts below are excerpts from the far larger, ongoing Multigenerational Experiences With and Attitudes About Casual Sex Survey I have been collecting responses to since 2010. The data below reflects responses given as of 6/8/2014. It is a broad, international survey, with the age of respondents…

What is it? Why would – or wouldn’t – you want it? What makes it more likely to be a blast or a bummer?