Relationships

Before we get into anything else, I want to debunk a few things you’ve said here that don’t have any real basis. He wants more sex than me. Big surprise. He’s a man. Men don’t automatically want more sex than women. Not all men and all women, not even most men and most women. Mind, we can say that…

Let’s start with the biggest question: is it wrong to have sex with someone you’re not in a capital-R or romantic relationship? You know, all this wrong and right stuff is arbitrary and very personal. I’m sure there are some things for me in my sex and general life that are right as rain for me, but…

I tend to think the best way of saying I love you is…well, saying “I love you.” But if you’re asking if sex can express love? Sure it can. It doesn’t always, but it absolutely always has that potential. People being mutually invested in each other’s comfort and pleasure, each other’s sexual growth…

If you say nothing, it’s unlikely he’ll know. The bodies of people with vaginas really don’t change when they have any kind of sex, unless they become pregnant or contract an infection. Vaginal sex can wear a hymen or partial hymen away more, but so can and do a lot of other things, and at your age…

If he refuses to change his mind, then this isn’t someone to marry, or even stay with anymore. Legally and emotionally tying yourself to someone who doesn’t give you a voice both in the kind of sex you have and when you become pregnant is legally and emotionally tying yourself to a kind of sexual…

No matter what THEIR reasons are for holding off on any kind of sex, all of you need to be respecting the choices each of you makes for yourself. So, if you’re making different choices than they are, the choices you want to make, this discussion with them shouldn’t be going on over and over again…

Well, if you’re just feeling strong sexual desire, not any attachment to that particular person, then masturbation is generally the best solution. Really, that’s the thing to do, always, when we don’t want intimacy with someone else, but only or solely want to just satisfy our own sexual needs and…

One of the absolute worst reasons to have sex – and a great way to assure that the sex you have won’t leave you feeling great physically or emotionally – is because everyone else is doing it, or because you feel left out. When you have sex with a partner, it should be about you and about that…

It sounds to me like it’s time for you to think about what you really want right now in this relationship and then have a good ole’ fashioned sit-down talk with your partner here, honey! First off, what exactly is it that you want in this relationship? Forget for a moment what he may or may not be…

If he’s only asking for sex, I’m sorry to tell you that it’s pretty safe to assume he isn’t interested in asking you out. He’s expressed his interest: it’s sex. And if you’ve interest in having a boyfriend, and his only interest is in having someone to have sex with, that’s a recipe for disaster…