Pleasure & Sexual Response

Ways that we and our bodies can react when any kind of sex or desire is in the mix, including feeling good, enjoying ourselves, orgasm, or barriers to those and other kinds of sexual response.

Articles and Advice in this area:

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  • Heather Corinna

You know, KY is really one of the lower quality lubricants out there. If you’re using the jelly, it really isn’t going to help much, but even their liquid lubes aren’t as good as a lot of others in my opinion. An excellent lubricant is not only as good as “natural” lubricant, sometimes it’s even…

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  • Susie Tang

Pre-ejaculatory fluid is secreted by twin structures called the Cowper’s glands. These glands are tiny, and they are located at the base of the penis. The fluid they make lubricates the urethra and facilitates semen flow during ejaculation. Pre-ejaculatory fluid starts to seep out during sexual…

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  • Heather Corinna

Well, I’ll bet you’re annoyed! But it’s not just a guy thing. Often after anyone – male, female or otherwise – reaches orgasm, they’ll be a little spaced out for a bit, and might need a breather sometimes. Sometimes, even with our bit of dizzy-spacey-blissed-out, we’ll still be up to continuing…

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  • Heather Corinna

Your boyfriend seems to be dismissing the fact that for the majority of women, intercourse all by itself, no matter how long or short it lasts, is not very satisfying, especially physically. But even if it were, and even if a majority of women wanted intercourse to last a long time, that wouldn’t be…

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  • Heather Corinna

Nothing in the world is wrong with you. We explain this a lot here, but I’ll say it again: the majority of women do NOT reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone. You’re not the only one asking, either. Sadly, more women than not have just never been informed as to how their sexual anatomy…

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  • Heather Corinna

You’re not alone in this, and it’s okay. Remember that orgasm is primarily an event that occurs in, and is about, the nervous system. Yes, most people have most of their orgasms due to stimulation that is about or includes genital stimulus. But not all people, and again, for most, it’s not JUST

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  • Heather Corinna

Not only can you not stop your vagina and vulva from lubricating, that is what HAPPENS to people with vaginas when we become sexually aroused. It’s supposed to, ideally, because if we’re not lubricated, vulval and vaginal sex – as well as some kinds of clitoral stimulation – doesn’t feel very good…

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  • Heather Corinna

You know, I always feel for heterosexual or bisexual folks when they clearly have paid attention to this stuff, done the reading or just talked to women, put it all together and have that “Whoah!” moment about this issue. With so many people reared to think that male-female vaginal intercourse is…

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  • Susie Tang

An erection happens when certain structures on your body stiffen due to either increased blood flow, or muscular flexing. But usually, people tend to talk about the penis when they are talking about erection. When a person with a penis is stimulated tactilely (by touch) or mentally (such as with…

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  • James Elliott

For all the peeps who aren’t familiar with the term ED, we’re talking about Erectile Dysfunction or impotence. And, yes, it’s normal and happens to a lot of people with penises. I strongly suggest you see a urologist regarding your ED, especially for a person your age. You limited erection can be…