Pleasure & Sexual Response

Phew! This is a lot of information – and that’s helpful – but there is also a lot to address in here. I’m seeing an awful lot of unrealistic expectations, from you and from your girlfriend, so I’d like to speak to those. Unrealistic expectations about sex really can make the sex we’re having be a…

I wouldn’t say you’re probably doing anything “wrong” here per say. Unless something is causing pain or injury or simply isn’t wanted, it’s not really fair to characterize it as “wrong.” Have you asked your partner what he likes? If not, then I’d start there. Sure, you could go get a book or a…

Humans are mostly made of water, and vaginal fluid is most certainly water-based. This means it can evaporate under normal earth conditions. This is normal. More normal than that is the fact that even when woman are sexually aroused, they may not make enough vaginal lubrication to make prolonged…

In this post, all I’ve heard about is what your boyfriend likes and wants. You haven’t said a thing about what YOU like and YOU want, and that concerns me. So, I really hope that any sex you’re having is just as much about what you want, what you need, and what you enjoy. To have a healthy sexual…

It sure is. If it hasn’t happened to you yet, yourself – with your boyfriend or when you masturbate alone – it probably will at some point. Orgasm is a full body event that gets our circulation pumping and our nervous system all fired up. After orgasm, in the resolution phase of the sexual…

Well, the first place I’d start is by having a good look at these four pieces here and sharing them with your spouse: Yield for Pleasure Sexual Response & Orgasm: A Users Guide First Intercourse 101 From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse Why did I link you to that first piece? In part…

Hey Dan: thanks for the props. :) ED drugs really aren’t intended for younger men, nor for the occasional problem with ED. Rather, they’re intended for a very persistent and ongoing problem, over time, and for older men who have ED for physical reasons due to aging or another medical condition (like…

First and foremost: Pornography is not real. Always remember that. Life doesn’t happen the way it does in the movies. Likewise, sex doesn’t happen the way it does in porn. Porn actors are actors. Is there anything wrong with the way you ejaculate? No. The force of a shot of semen depends on the…

Honestly? Cisgender women sleeping together have no fewer sexual options than women sleeping with men or men sleeping with men do. You can have all kinds of labial, vaginal and clitoral stimulus; you can do manual, oral, vaginal or anal sex, mutual masturbation, massage, frottage, breast play…

Shaun: if not reaching orgasm with a partner during intercourse meant a person was still a virgin, there would be an AWFUL lot of cis women in their forties who have been having sex for two decades but were still virgins. Virginity isn’t some medical state or condition, or something you can get some…