Pleasure & Sexual Response

I absolutely DESPISE the term “foreplay.” Let me tell you why. That term states or suggests – structurally, it means “before sex” – that vaginal intercourse is capital-S sex and that every other kind of sex either isn’t sex, or should only exist to help prime the pump, as it were, for vaginal…

This happens. I know that probably sounds cliché, but you need to understand that no matter how old you are, how much sleep you have had, how much you want to have sex, how turned on you are, your penis is neither a machine nor an obedient soldier. It’s a part of your body, like any other, and just…

He gets close every time you try. I interpret that as you are using various techniques that he really enjoys, but then maybe you opt for a different technique or vary its pace. These changes can quickly take a guy from the verge of reaching an orgasm to simply enjoying the sensation. Of all the…

What you’re asking about is most typically called female ejaculation (even though not everyone with a vulva identifies as female, nor does everyone who identifies as female have a vulva), and often colloquially called “squirting.” Before I say anything else, I want to say these four things first: 1)…

I’m going to assume that when you say “sex” you’re talking about vaginal intercourse. If your boyfriend is going to have partners with vaginas who experience pleasure with sex, he’s going to have to adjust his way of thinking. Most people with vaginas – around 70% – are NOT going to reach orgasm…

Hi there, Depending how long this has been going on for, I think you both need to give yourselves a break. You may have other stressors going on in your life, and now your sex life isn’t working out the way it used to … This is a lot of pressure. And, unfortuneatly, the more you focus on how great…

(Minny’s question continued) Still, I seem to be the odd one out and I find it distressing. I broached the subject with him recently, merely suggesting that I hadn’t actively enjoyed the way we’d had sex (not even that I disliked it) and he’d got very worried and hurt and said that I should have…

The problem here isn’t your body, nor that fact that most women are just not going to orgasm from intercourse alone. The problem is, as you stated, the fact that your partner seems only interested in an activity which results in his own orgasm and his pleasure. That’s the big problem. That’s what…

While the experience was probably different and new to you, that doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s a weird experience. Female ejaculation (which is also called squirting, since not every person with a vulva is female) is actually a normal sexual response, though it’s not as common a response. So…

Orgasms will tend to last anywhere from a few seconds to less than a minute for most people, most of the time. Orgasms for people with vaginas often tend to last a bit longer than orgasms for people with penises – but for people of all genders, we’re still talking within an average of a few seconds…