Partnered Sex

This can be an issue with men with thinner (less wide) penises during intercourse, especially circumcised men (who don’t have foreskins to provide extra friction), and it’s common enough for it to only become an issue once the female partner is more easily aroused and comfortable – which is as it…

Partnered sex doesn’t have to be quid pro quo. In other words, there’s no need for there to somehow be some perfectly identical exchange of activities, and with opposite-sex partners, that’s not really even all that possible, since you’ve got different parts! What’s important is that things are…

You put yourself in sexual relationships where you feel comfortable clearly communicating your desires to a partner. In other words, getting your wants and needs met when it comes to any kind of sex isn’t about pointing your bottom at whatever the right angle is for a partner to somehow psychically…

The state of the hymen does not change risks of pregnancy in any way, nor does the hymen – or not having had sexual intercourse before – act as any kind of birth control. If you’re at least in puberty, and you’re menstruating, then already, it’s a given that your hymen at least has micro…

It’s so tragic that anyone is afraid to ask questions about something so important, but it’s an unfortunate reality for a lot of people. Just know that this isn’t a place where you need to be scared to ask anything, okay? This is what we’re here for! Is intercourse supposed to hurt? No, intercourse…

Virginity isn’t something physical we can “break.” And virginity isn’t your hymen: it’s an idea, or a set of values and concepts which varies from person to person, not a body part. In other words, you define what virginity is for yourself, or, if this is based in something religious, or a set of…

(Anonymous’ question continued) I will try my hardest (as in I will work as long as I can) to help her reach orgasm, but she just can’t seem to. Not once have I managed to make her climax during vaginal or oral sex. The most recent time She came very close, but just as she was about to peak she went…

It’s not a bad thing when it isn’t a bad thing for you. NO consensual sexual activity is a bad thing, per the activity alone, when everyone involved WANTS to be doing it, and feels good physically and emotionally doing it. But you’re right: there are a lot of negative attitudes about anal sex and…

Sometimes, when we perceive pain before it happens, we feel pain because (primarily) of that perception. It’s called a perceived pain event when that happens. Suffice it to say, that happens a LOT to a lot of women with first intercourse because of all the stories we hear about how terribly painful…

First things first: with ANY new partner – as in, someone we have not been with for six months or more, and practicing all aspects of safer sex with – we really, truly should be using latex barriers (condoms, in this case) with fellatio. I know, I do, that at 14, it often seems really unlikely…